Goodbye Coffee Room!

what does +1 mean is it the same as bump?

Daas Yochid – I HAVE filtered the posts and unfriended her. I barely ever go on Facebook, so I was innocently unaware of what she was saying about my family and me, until it was brought to my attention, both because it was all sheker and because it was libelous in print. People who don’t know me, were giving her chizuk and egging her on, telling her what an ingrate I clearly am (and that is one of the nicer things I was called, I won’t repeat in print or otherwise the other things she wrote).

Obviously she is profoundly emotionally disturbed, and for that reason, I am moichel her. It is still hurtful nonetheless, and especially so because she lives near my community, and knows some of the same people whom we know.

Thank you, and I daven for her refuah. Our mutual friends DO know, but at first many of them did not realize she was speaking of me and encouraged her. When they discovered she was writing about me, they were horrified and very apologetic to me for having unknowingly added fuel to her fire. But there are also those whose first thought was, “Well where there’s smoke…” and that is the real danger of motzi shem ra. There will always be someone who thinks it MIGHT somehow in SOME way be even a LITTLE bit true.

In this case, it is an inyan of a complete break with reality, coupled with apparent paranoia. I am convinced that she has begun to believe her own fiction, especially the part where she believe she has done “endless chessed for those who spit in the face of chessed.” Gam zeh ya’avor. Obviously Hashem feels I need this particular nisayon right now. Let it be a kaparah.