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What do I bring them??? i went shopping for 2 hours yesterday looking for cute stuff for his little siblings but what do I bring for his parents and the older children?? is a candle platter tacky?? idk what do you suggest!!??
How about a honey dish for Rosh Hashana?
A candle platter is good.
This time do a candy platter. Over Shabbos, take note of things that they may like, for example I found out that my inlaws like the “Bartenura Blue Bottle” of wine, so the next time I came, that’s what I brought.
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Bring a fancy chocolate plater, not to expensive and always apriciative.
Cshapiro
Why don’t you ask your chosson?
i bought a dish that made a statement and sent homemade apple turnovers. they loved it
Also instead of a present you may want to cook or bake somthing for shabbos.
mazel tov! chocolates are always nice , or a very nice wine. don’t be nervous!!
Babygoose
Very classy. I like that idea of bringing something you baked. It also shows the family that you are a balabusta lol.
bring a nice bootle of wine and a crystal/silver wine bottle in an arrangement. its useful and looks gorgeous(if its done right!) I know my mother loved it when my sister-in-law sent this.
I don’t think you should bring a gift when going to your future in-laws for shabbos. You are not a guest, you are family.
You don’t bring your parents a candy dish when you come for shabbos.
If you really feel you must bring something- homemade cookies.
wiy, lqtm
bring a nice bootle of wine
its not really appropriate to bring wine in a small boot. leave it in its original bottle and the hosts can transfer it into a boot of their choosing. (although i never heard of this custom, and it doesnt sound very appetizing)
“i bought a dish that made a statement”
What did it say?
popa
“future” in-laws is a very different relationship than in-laws
Still, I don’t think you should bring anything. They want to relate to you as family. You don’t bring a gift when you visit family.
i think they expect you to bring something, you family doesnt.
however, if you dont bring something and explain you “really wanted to bring something but family doesnt bring gifts when they visit family and were almost family”
that might work
or
they might think you are really cheap and a smooth talker as well
80- i think thats more like it! you have to bring something. most ppl I know bring a nice glass plate or jar and they bake something and fill it. either like cinnamon buns or a cake of some sort thats nice and tasty and homey
“I love the homemade idea….but idk how to cook or bake… “
Your mother can help you, I’m sure she will keep it a secret…
Babygoose, what does lqtm mean? I noticed you used it a number of times in your posts.
“Still, I don’t think you should bring anything. They want to relate to you as family. You don’t bring a gift when you visit family.”
Yes, you do. Even when I go to my own mother I bring flowers + some food, aldough noting fancy but it takes off some of her workload.
laughing quietly to myself
it is a truthful answer to rotfl and lol ,since no one actually is rolling on the floor, and they very likely arent even laughing out loud.
I also think something for the upcoming Yontif- a unique honey dish or a pretty hand-painted plate to serve apples, or a nice fish platter (pewter?)… if not, then a beautiful bouquet of flowers.
In any case don’t post your final idea since your future in laws might be closet CR members.
Maskingtape, LQTM: Laughing quietly to myself.
My wife made cinnamon buns when she came to my house for the first time for shabbos. They were great, my parents thought it was the perfect thing to bring.
If they love you, they will love whatever you bring.
A jug of Drano, or muriatic acid if you’re going to have milchigs :).
Oh! Kilobear she is not yet a doughter in law…
the first shabbos i went to future inlaws i brought them the first batch of challah i ever made. they weren’t perfect but my inlaws (and chosson) loved it. another week, after i got pictures from my vort i brought them a silver frame with a great picture of me and chosson. they still have it displayed in their dining room.
Eggs from your chickens or vegetables from your garden. I always bring that, and folks are always delighted.
Its not what you bring, its who brings it, since hopefully they love you I’m sure that whatever you bring will be valued.
I usually bring chickens from my eggs.
PBA, you are hilerious.
Bring a shopping bag.. so you can take home the leftovers
” but idk how to cook or bake… “
And you’re getting married when?
Be sure Chap-a-Nosh and Schnitzi are in your speed dial
If there are food left over its because you didn’t like it. You might as well leave it there.
why dont you just bring a nice album of you and your chasson from your vort
“why dont you just bring a nice album of you and your chasson from your vort”
*like*
YES I do my something when I g to my mother for shabbos
Kallah, yes you have good instincts and you are on the right track. It would be appropriate for you to bring something. The suggestion that you bring pictures in a nice album or a nice picture of you and the chasson in a very nice frame if you haven’t done that already is probably the best idea.
The next to the best idea is to bake chocolate chip cookies (who doesn’t like them), which are the easiest cookies to bake and bring them on a very nice platter that they would be very proud to use again.
Those are the two simplest and least awkward things to do. The next in line is flowers, but that is something that is not so special because your father-in-law might get his wife flowers on a regular basis.
My daughter-in-law came with a cookie jar filled with home made chocolate chip cookies the day she came to meet us. That was an unusual move and totally not necessary but very impressive and thoughtful.
Keep it small and thoughtful.
I would have suggested a netilas yadayim towel or pot holders. In truth, anything you bring shows thoughtfulness.
I’d suggest bringing sugar free rugelach (bakery) for his dad. It shows you went the extra mile and were really thoughtful.
I know you’re nervous, but you’re going to have a great time, IY’H!
Seriously, if anyone in the house has a particular interest, get them something they can use. I’d be much more impressed with a Vise-Grip than another bottle of wine for Shabbos myself (besides, anyone who knows me knows you need a vise-grip to open any soda bottle cap I close so it isn’t even muktze on my Shabbos table!) :)). Everyone nowadays has enough mashke and wine in the house.
Baking yourself is another good idea, especially if you’re in a small community or a world where everyone goes to the same bakery anyway and you can assume that your in-laws have tasted what you would buy for them there.
Music albums are always a good gift for teenagers.
(besides, anyone who knows me knows you need a vise-grip to open any soda bottle cap I close so it isn’t even muktze on my Shabbos table!) :))
Why, do you shmear grease all over it?
@PBA – i always bring something to my in laws or parents to show my gratitude. Even though parents and in laws want you to come and shep lotsa nachas and look at it as special to have you (at least mine do) I feel that its alot of work to invite a whole family for a shabbos. usually i bake a desert or make a kugel or i give an updated picture in a frame.
yes, bring something sugar-free for the Tatta… it’s thoughtful.
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