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  • #1187462

    Wha? Didn’t they get married?

    #1187463
    Joseph
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    They could still get married.

    #1187464

    They did get married, and a beautiful simcha it was. But I never told my kids.

    #1187465
    zogt_besser
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    didn’t your kids already know the couple was engaged?

    #1187466
    charliehall
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    I met my wife online 11 years ago.

    #1187467
    Joseph
    Participant

    Well, that explains it.

    #1187468

    My children are still not clear about their relationship, which is even more complicated now that they have a child.

    Ah, more trollery…

    #1187469

    “I’m very reluctant to start threads, because I don’t want to

    push the hebrewbooks directory off of the first page of my profile”

    The profile hardly anyone sees, because your name is linked

    to that kosher haircut site, and when you try profile/daasyochid

    you’re not there? (It’s at /daas-yochid, if anyone’s curious.)

    Anyway, you can just put the URL in any part of the information

    section of your profile, allowing you to start any number of threads.

    (What have I wrought?)

    #1187470
    Joseph
    Participant

    Is every post using wry humor or an allegory deemed trolling?

    #1187471

    A post as wry as the OP just might be intentionally

    misleading – it certainly did mislead people…

    And intentionally misleading, looking to see if anyone gets it – isn’t

    that trolling? (In the case of Popa, everyone knows not to

    take his threads at face value.) And that last post seemed to be

    a continuation of the thread’s original intent… The answer is no.

    #1187472

    “I’m very reluctant to start threads, because I

    don’t want to push the hebrewbooks directory off

    of the first page of my profile”

    The profile hardly anyone sees, because your name is linked

    to that kosher haircut site, and when you try profile/daasyochid

    it’s not there? (It’s at /daas-yochid, if anyone’s curious.)

    Anyway, look at my profile and you may soon

    be able to start threads as often as you like.

    #1187473
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    Why would it be a problem to marry someone you met online assuming you check them out before you go out with them? I think it sounds better than meeting someone at a singles’ event which is very mekubal nowadays for older singles.

    When people meet at a singles’ event, they are more likely to notice and be focused on the superficial aspects of other people (their appearance), but online, you can’t even see the other person, and what you notice about them is they way they relate to other people and their opinions, hashkafas and values (as well as other crucial things such as their spelling, grammar and vocabulary 🙂 )

    #1187474
    Shopping613 🌠
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    lilmod- okay let’s not even get into the safety part of this conversation.

    Disregarding that, many people put a mask on over the internet. You might not even be talking to a person of the opposite gender.

    I know of people who were killed through “meeting” people online.

    It’s easy to lie, copy and paste is simmple here.

    Dating online is not the soluction to the shidduch crisis

    #1187475
    zahavasdad
    Participant

    J-Date and Saw you at Sinai are legitimate places to make shiduchim

    #1187476
    Abba_S
    Participant

    Meeting someone online or even at a social gathering you have no idea who they are they might have just been let out of prison. If you do decide to go out, meet at an offsite well light public location so he doesn’t know where you live and under no circumstance eat or drink anything unless he is thoroughly vetted as he might slip something in your food or drink. Even someone you met through J-Date or Saw you at Sinai require background checking as there is minimal or no background checking.

    #1187477
    zahavasdad
    Participant

    The Orhtodox jewish community really isnt that big even the MO community. It is likely that the person you meet on J-date or Saw you at Sinai knows someone who knows someone who knows someone who knows you

    #1187479
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Shopping – it can be dangerous if done the wrong way. Obviously, you have to be careful and take the right precautions.

    I am referring to a case in which you approach it the way you approach any shidduch – by using a shadchan and references, and trying to figure out who you know in common, and checking out the person carefully. If you do it that way, it is no different than Saw You At Sinai and Frumster which are both recommended by Rabbanim.

    Also, I was referring to older singles. I would not recommend that “younger singles” meet that way. Dating when you are older is completely different than when you are younger.

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