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October 25, 2015 8:41 pm at 8:41 pm #1187462YW Moderator-29 👨💻Moderator
Wha? Didn’t they get married?
October 25, 2015 8:41 pm at 8:41 pm #1187463JosephParticipantThey could still get married.
October 25, 2015 8:42 pm at 8:42 pm #1187464Veltz MeshugenerMemberThey did get married, and a beautiful simcha it was. But I never told my kids.
October 25, 2015 8:48 pm at 8:48 pm #1187465zogt_besserParticipantdidn’t your kids already know the couple was engaged?
October 25, 2015 10:04 pm at 10:04 pm #1187466charliehallParticipantI met my wife online 11 years ago.
October 25, 2015 10:09 pm at 10:09 pm #1187467JosephParticipantWell, that explains it.
October 26, 2015 11:17 pm at 11:17 pm #1187468☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲ParticipantMy children are still not clear about their relationship, which is even more complicated now that they have a child.
Ah, more trollery…
October 26, 2015 11:19 pm at 11:19 pm #1187469☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲Participant“I’m very reluctant to start threads, because I don’t want to
push the hebrewbooks directory off of the first page of my profile”
The profile hardly anyone sees, because your name is linked
to that kosher haircut site, and when you try profile/daasyochid
you’re not there? (It’s at /daas-yochid, if anyone’s curious.)
Anyway, you can just put the URL in any part of the information
section of your profile, allowing you to start any number of threads.
(What have I wrought?)
October 26, 2015 11:21 pm at 11:21 pm #1187470JosephParticipantIs every post using wry humor or an allegory deemed trolling?
October 27, 2015 12:21 am at 12:21 am #1187471☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲ParticipantA post as wry as the OP just might be intentionally
misleading – it certainly did mislead people…
And intentionally misleading, looking to see if anyone gets it – isn’t
that trolling? (In the case of Popa, everyone knows not to
take his threads at face value.) And that last post seemed to be
a continuation of the thread’s original intent… The answer is no.
October 27, 2015 1:19 am at 1:19 am #1187472☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲Participant“I’m very reluctant to start threads, because I
don’t want to push the hebrewbooks directory off
of the first page of my profile”
The profile hardly anyone sees, because your name is linked
to that kosher haircut site, and when you try profile/daasyochid
it’s not there? (It’s at /daas-yochid, if anyone’s curious.)
Anyway, look at my profile and you may soon
be able to start threads as often as you like.
October 22, 2016 9:42 pm at 9:42 pm #1187473Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantWhy would it be a problem to marry someone you met online assuming you check them out before you go out with them? I think it sounds better than meeting someone at a singles’ event which is very mekubal nowadays for older singles.
When people meet at a singles’ event, they are more likely to notice and be focused on the superficial aspects of other people (their appearance), but online, you can’t even see the other person, and what you notice about them is they way they relate to other people and their opinions, hashkafas and values (as well as other crucial things such as their spelling, grammar and vocabulary 🙂 )
October 23, 2016 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1187474Shopping613 🌠Participantlilmod- okay let’s not even get into the safety part of this conversation.
Disregarding that, many people put a mask on over the internet. You might not even be talking to a person of the opposite gender.
I know of people who were killed through “meeting” people online.
It’s easy to lie, copy and paste is simmple here.
Dating online is not the soluction to the shidduch crisis
October 23, 2016 2:23 pm at 2:23 pm #1187475zahavasdadParticipantJ-Date and Saw you at Sinai are legitimate places to make shiduchim
October 23, 2016 7:42 pm at 7:42 pm #1187476Abba_SParticipantMeeting someone online or even at a social gathering you have no idea who they are they might have just been let out of prison. If you do decide to go out, meet at an offsite well light public location so he doesn’t know where you live and under no circumstance eat or drink anything unless he is thoroughly vetted as he might slip something in your food or drink. Even someone you met through J-Date or Saw you at Sinai require background checking as there is minimal or no background checking.
October 23, 2016 9:15 pm at 9:15 pm #1187477zahavasdadParticipantThe Orhtodox jewish community really isnt that big even the MO community. It is likely that the person you meet on J-date or Saw you at Sinai knows someone who knows someone who knows someone who knows you
October 24, 2016 8:06 pm at 8:06 pm #1187479Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantShopping – it can be dangerous if done the wrong way. Obviously, you have to be careful and take the right precautions.
I am referring to a case in which you approach it the way you approach any shidduch – by using a shadchan and references, and trying to figure out who you know in common, and checking out the person carefully. If you do it that way, it is no different than Saw You At Sinai and Frumster which are both recommended by Rabbanim.
Also, I was referring to older singles. I would not recommend that “younger singles” meet that way. Dating when you are older is completely different than when you are younger.
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