BTW Joseph, I believe you asked on a thread that’s been closed why shluchos took this name for themselves – I just saw a sicha where the Rebbe calls the shluchos, shluchos. So it’s not something that originated after gimmel tammuz as you had thought.you’re welcome to see for yourself – Sefer hasichos 5752, chof beis shvat, ois 17.
Halacha is very clear on this. Someone is an adult when they reach age 13.
To try and force a child to be an adult before this age is directly in conflict with Jewish Law.
Joseph, children become adults when they are given and expected to take responsibility. Many lubavitcher Rebbeim married at 14 and their wives were probably about that age as well. A 5 year old who knows shell marry about 12 is alot more mature than the five year old of today.
Even in today’s world, our young adults who marry in their early 20s are much more adult than their non Jewish counterparts who live off their parents through their 30s…