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I don’t think they’re necessary. Mine was very small, in the house and I survived.
If I were wearing a skirt, I wouldn’t want to leave the house either.
Ah… sorry for the false (implied) accusation.
Is there any way you could make separate accounts, so we know to whom we’re talking?
if they’re that young, better they don’t. What kind of behavior are you encouraging DY 🙂
Well back to the bar mitzvah topic…
I think they’re great, it gives the kid a sense of purpose. He would feel really stupid if he had a small one while all his friends had big ones.
They’re expensive, but so is allot of things in life. This one is clearly necessary.
I like big bar mitzvahs. Mine cost a small fortune and was AWESOME!! Baruch Hashem my family afford it. I think for families who can do it, go for it! B’Rov Am hadras melech.
I see no value to making a bar mitzvah expensive. the party is not relevent to the occasion and it is money that could be better spent, for sure. If you make it fancy and expensive by doing something to honor the fact that this is a day when a boy becomes responsible for Torah and Mitzvos, than that is something else.
We made a dessert buffet instead of a meal and we had it in a place where we could bring in food so our friends could bake for it. It was still ‘fancy’ because I have friends and kids who know how to make anything look beautiful but it was far from expensive. Better to save the money for the suit, hat, tefillin, hat, shirt, shoes (you get the picture)
Bar mitzvahs are all the same size. The celebrations differ. In fact, I am not sure that a bar mitzvah can be said to have a size. What size is Hashem?
Size 0. She needs a shidduch also.
My dad O”H would always comment about the simcha that was more Bar than Mitzvah. I think a nice and elegant party SHOULD be made, if the family can afford it. But if it becomes a three-ring-circus, with the boy riding in on a motorcycle, or just an excuse for conspicuous consumption, that is not my cup of tea.
We made a beautiful simcha for my oldest son, but it was done on a budget, we had a one man keyboardist, my husband and I made the table arrangements out of small plants that we got at an incredibly affordable price (and every couple at the table got to take one home), and our caterer worked within a limited budget and did a beautiful job.
The focus should be more on the simcha of bringing a child to Torah, and less on how many types of sushi will be served at the smorg.
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