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March 15, 2012 1:22 pm at 1:22 pm #602494hershiMember
Can the average person tell the difference between real and fake diamond (or gold and other precious metals) jewelry?
If I gave it as a gift, would the receipient likely know the difference, without having it evaluated by a professional? (This is not for an engagement.)
March 15, 2012 2:47 pm at 2:47 pm #1058352yentingyentaParticipantsometimes i can tell be the setting if its more likely fake or real. some times its just to shiny or sparkly to be a real stone
my father used to be in the jewelry business so both my parents can look at a piece and can tell if its real or fake.
as a recipient you will probably not know the difference. and the giver probably does not want you to know the difference.
March 15, 2012 3:21 pm at 3:21 pm #1058353hershiMemberSo why should anyone care, if the difference takes a microscope or they won’t know without a professional opinion?
March 15, 2012 3:22 pm at 3:22 pm #1058354hershiMemberAnd how much is the price differential between real and fake?
March 15, 2012 3:48 pm at 3:48 pm #1058355yentingyentaParticipantmy mother can look at a ring on a kallah’s hand or other jewelry from that distance and can tell if its real or fake. if she is holding a necklace or bracelet she can tell by the weight of it if its real or not. my father too. doesnt take a microscope. (for diamond clarity/type you will need a jeweler’s loop)
a lay person will usually not be able to tell the difference.
BIG price difference between real and fake. i dont know specific differences though, sorry. i can afford fake on my budget. real, not so much :). the price of gold and silver have gone up tremendously in the last 5 years. the ring i got 5 years ago which cost X$ is alot more than X$ today.
if you are buying peals, a good set of costume peals will look as good or exactly like real pearls. semi precious stones are also a little better priced than diamonds and such.
if you need to buy someone a gift, buy what you can afford. don’t spend outside what you have (my 2 cents. are you looking to buy someone a gift?)
March 15, 2012 10:24 pm at 10:24 pm #1058356hershiMemberThis begs the question:
Why EVER get real jewelry?
(If the difference isn’t easily discernable.)
March 15, 2012 11:30 pm at 11:30 pm #1058357OneOfManyParticipantWhy buy real someone real flowers? They’re cheaper, stay fresh longer, and sometimes even look nicer. So why EVER get real flowers? (If the difference isn’t easily discernible.)
March 15, 2012 11:37 pm at 11:37 pm #1058358foodieMemberYou can tell if something is real gold or silver because the real one will have a number ingrained in it. For example, real gold will say 14k, 18k, etc. With diamonds you can sometimes tell if it is real by the sparkle of it.
March 16, 2012 12:01 am at 12:01 am #1058359EY MomParticipantMr. Hershi:
1)Quality and longevity of the piece, 2) Resale value. Costume jewelry has no resale value, whereas gold and diamonds do.
I’m not saying I buy real jewelry, just that those are 2 good reasons why people do.
March 16, 2012 12:22 am at 12:22 am #1058360LogicianParticipantHope you don’t have any gneivas da’as up your sleeve
March 16, 2012 12:28 am at 12:28 am #1058361PurimMashgiachMemberWhy buy anything? Grass is very healthy!
March 16, 2012 12:53 am at 12:53 am #1058362DerechMemberI certainly see no logical reason to buy real jewelry if the fake jewelry looks the same and costs much less.
Resale? How often do you sell your jewelry, anyways? And, the fake didn’t cost you much to begin with, so you lost little even without reselling it.
Same with longevity. You’ll save much more even if you buy 10 fakes of the same real jewelry, that’ll last you as long as you need and cost far less.
March 16, 2012 1:27 am at 1:27 am #1058363uneeqParticipantGet a real gold setting with a fake diamond. Problem solved. No one can tell the difference anyway without using a loupe.
March 16, 2012 2:16 am at 2:16 am #1058364avhabenParticipantReal diamonds or gold Jewelry is a complete waste of money. Buy the look-alike.
March 16, 2012 4:01 am at 4:01 am #1058365mra01385ParticipantI think real jewelry has much better quality and will last forever, while fake jewelry can get all rusty and black, especially silver plated jewelry. Real jewelry can be polished. I’m not sure if fake jewelry can be polished.
March 16, 2012 8:29 pm at 8:29 pm #1058366LogicianParticipantThe prices are ridiculous anyway, as diamond prices are artificially controlled by limiting the supply.
March 16, 2012 9:04 pm at 9:04 pm #1058367hershiMemberThat’s another reason to buy fake.
March 16, 2012 9:06 pm at 9:06 pm #1058368popa_bar_abbaParticipantIf anyone gave me fake jewelery without telling me, it would completely negate all the good will from the gift when I eventually found out.
March 16, 2012 9:16 pm at 9:16 pm #1058369hershiMemberWhy would it make a difference to you, if it wasn’t represented as being real diamonds?
March 16, 2012 9:23 pm at 9:23 pm #1058370popa_bar_abbaParticipantOf course it would make a difference, but your question was about giving it without telling them it was fake. It would also make a difference if it was carrot cake instead of diamonds.
March 16, 2012 9:31 pm at 9:31 pm #1058371hershiMemberWithout telling them it is real and without telling them it is fake. A present is a surprise. You aren’t represnting it either way. You object to that?
March 18, 2012 3:13 am at 3:13 am #1058372OneOfManyParticipanthershi: If she’s going to assume that it’s real, wouldn’t it be geneivas da’as to do so?
March 18, 2012 3:16 am at 3:16 am #1058373popa_bar_abbaParticipantyes, I have a real problem with that. If I found out someone did that to me, it would ruin our relationship seriously.
March 18, 2012 3:42 am at 3:42 am #10583742scentsParticipantI think that the logic behind fake/realy jewerly is this.
If the gift is a token of appreciation then the content of the gift is not so important (I am not dismissing the fact that the nicer the gift, the bigger the token)
However if the gift is for an engagement or for a relationship, then the gift has to be real, since it is the content that matters.
I know people that order fake jewerly similiar to their real ones, so they can leave the real ones in the safe, and carry the replicated ones..
March 18, 2012 4:36 am at 4:36 am #1058375farrocksMemberHuh? Since when does the physical content of the gift matter if it is for an engagement? Will their lives be poorer if it isn’t a real diamond? Will they be hungrier? Is their happiness dependent on diamonds?
March 18, 2012 5:08 am at 5:08 am #1058376OneOfManyParticipantfarrocks: It doesn’t, necessarily. I know of some couples that agreed to get CZ jewelry, because it really was the same to them. But I don’t think that that’s something that every kallah can do, especially with peer pressure and all. And I don’t think you can fault them for that. The ring IS a very meaningful thing. And seriously, it’s not such a big deal. A modest diamond will not break the bank.
March 18, 2012 5:13 am at 5:13 am #1058377farrocksMemberWhy is it meaningful to them? Is there a logical explanation to that?
March 18, 2012 5:19 am at 5:19 am #1058378OneOfManyParticipantBecause girls like expensive glittery things. Sheesh. What did you think?
March 18, 2012 5:21 am at 5:21 am #1058379farrocksMemberJAP?
March 18, 2012 5:22 am at 5:22 am #1058380WolfishMusingsParticipantHeh. When I proposed to Eeees, I used a candy ring. 🙂 (… and she said “yes.”)
The Wolf
March 18, 2012 5:23 am at 5:23 am #1058381OneOfManyParticipantfarrocks: Pretty sure it’s universal. You know what they say about girls and diamonds…
March 18, 2012 5:26 am at 5:26 am #1058382farrocksMemberThey all fell victim to De Beers?
March 18, 2012 6:04 am at 6:04 am #1058383more_2MemberOneOfMany
Wun Uv Meny
Why buy real someone real flowers? They’re cheaper, stay fresh longer, and sometimes even look nicer. So why EVER get real flowers? (If the difference isn’t easily discernible.)
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Your not female;)
March 18, 2012 6:37 am at 6:37 am #1058384OneOfManyParticipantfarrocks: Um, I don’t know what that means. But that’s not what they say. That’s probably why you don’t understand.
more_2: Yes I am. I was being rhetorical. 🙂
March 18, 2012 7:10 am at 7:10 am #1058385uneeqParticipantOOM: The explanation is simple. You believe that women like diamonds because they are programmed like that when they were born. That there’s no logical reason, and that’s why diamonds are loved by women all over the world.
However, a smart person can tell you, that before the 1900’s, the concept of giving a diamond to get married was a very foreign idea. This “natural” deisre for women to get glittery expensive jewelry didn’t exist not so long ago.
De Beers created that image, using advertising such as “diamonds are forever”, and since they hold about 70% of the world diamond supply, they profited heavily.
March 18, 2012 7:35 am at 7:35 am #1058386more_2MemberOneOfMany
Wun Uv Meny
farrocks: Um, I don’t know what that means. But that’s not what they say. That’s probably why you don’t understand.
more_2: Yes I am. I was being rhetorical. 🙂
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Oh, because your also the mildly retarded eccentric woman;)Lol
March 18, 2012 7:36 am at 7:36 am #1058387OneOfManyParticipantNo, I think girls like expensive glittery things, and De Beers or whoever just directed that inclination toward diamonds. Don’t go telling me women didn’t like ornaments and baubles earlier than 100 years ago, because I’m certain that’s not true.
March 18, 2012 12:47 pm at 12:47 pm #1058388HolyMoeParticipantread the classic short story by Guy de Maupassant titled: The Necklace.
You can find it in English at:http://www.eastoftheweb.com/short-stories/UBooks/Neck.shtml
It is a sad story about this topic – very well written.
March 18, 2012 2:25 pm at 2:25 pm #1058389yehudayonaParticipantWhen my wife and I got engaged 25 years ago, we agreed to forgo the engagement ring. That was at a time when buying a diamond was tantamount to supporting apartheid. Quite a few years later, she told me she’d like a ring, but that it was a waste of money to get a diamond. So I got a nice CZ ring on eBay.
If you want to know the social history of diamonds, I recommend this long 1982 article from The Atlantic:
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/1982/02/have-you-ever-tried-to-sell-a-diamond/4575/
March 18, 2012 2:34 pm at 2:34 pm #1058390yitayningwutParticipantYeah, uneeq, that’s a pretty strange assumption to make. You think jewelry and glittery stuff was not a girly thing 200 years ago? You market donuts to people who are hungry, or however the saying should go.
March 18, 2012 5:36 pm at 5:36 pm #1058391farrocksMemberuneeq was correctly pointing out that prior to the De Beers marketing campaigns, beginning some 100 or so years ago, there was no concept of having to get a diamond ring upon engagement.
March 18, 2012 6:03 pm at 6:03 pm #1058392OneOfManyParticipantmore_2: Now I’m Wolf and popa too? I’m not so sure a human being could pull that off…I guess that’s quite a compliment. 🙂
March 18, 2012 7:14 pm at 7:14 pm #1058393yitayningwutParticipantNice! lol
February 5, 2015 1:36 am at 1:36 am #1058394👑RebYidd23ParticipantEvery fake diamond is a real something else.
February 5, 2015 3:36 pm at 3:36 pm #1058397SayIDidItâ„¢ParticipantRebYidd, did you Bump this for me?
Interesting topic, but it still doesn’t answer my question. What is it about REAL flowers that women like so much?
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/flowers
About buying fake jewelery, if she thinks it’s real, I think that’s deceiving and not fair! Especially if one of the main points of a gift is that I’m willing to spend money on you. She thinks you spent $YYYY+ on her when you really spent $YYY-, and that’s lying…
February 5, 2015 4:12 pm at 4:12 pm #1058398☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantWhy does she have to think it’s “real”?
February 5, 2015 6:36 pm at 6:36 pm #1058399SayIDidItâ„¢ParticipantIf you give it to her without any explanation, she will think it’s real (unless she knows you) and IMHO that’s not being honest.
SiDi™
February 5, 2015 7:15 pm at 7:15 pm #1058400☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantAre you in the habit of giving gifts to people who don’t know you?
Anyhow, you could tell her as you’re giving it.
February 5, 2015 9:43 pm at 9:43 pm #1058401SayIDidItâ„¢ParticipantAre you in the habit of giving gifts to people who don’t know you?
A Chassan to his Kallah? They don’t know each other (as much as they think they do!)
Anyhow, you could tell her as you’re giving it.
If you tell her, great! My problem would be giving fake and allowing her to think it’s real.
popa said it very well:
If anyone gave me fake jewelery without telling me, it would completely negate all the good will from the gift when I eventually found out.
SiDi™
February 5, 2015 9:44 pm at 9:44 pm #1058402SayIDidItâ„¢ParticipantDY, I debated if popa should be capitalized or not…
SiDi™
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