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After reading all the quandaries people have posted about shidduchim I got to thinking (a she’he’chiyonu).
If for Plonis arriving in a cab or helicopter for a date is acceptable or cool, the fact that to Yenta A. or Mr. B. Macher it doesnt sound classy should be totally irrelevant!
All the “es past nisht” that others feel should feel insignificant to whoever is happy with it. The same thing applies to many other “trivial things”, like yichus, profession…
What do you guys think?
Also please check out the stories I posted in the nightly dvar torah thread
You might come out with a new perspective on this topic as well.
This tops all.
Someone told me,”My friend married so-and-so,BUT SHE COULD HAVE DONE MUCH BETTER.”
Can you imagine??
TBT, you are 100% right. People should concentrate more on what Hashem has in mind for them than what their friends’ opinions are. That is why shidduchim should be private and you shouldn’t discuss your dates with your friends. Yenta’s will have a rude awakening when they give their din v’chesbon nuch 120!
You are very perceptive in mentioning “decent beverage ordering
skills.” People don’t realize how many Shalom Bayis problems
are a direct result of at least one of the two spouses lacking
this basic skill. If my rebbetzin would’ve said “i’ll have a
diet Dr. Pepper” (no affiliation w/ dr. pepper)
she’d have to take the train home.
Dr. Pepper is healthy enough! Who wants a health nut?
😉
Someone told me,”My friend married so-and-so,BUT SHE COULD HAVE DONE MUCH BETTER.”
I also know of a case like that. A very nice normal girl married a guy who was physically and emotionally abusive. Then, when she finally left, he made up stories and hired lawyers and took the kids and sent them to military boarding schools.
She could have done much better.
Is that what you mean?
“Es Past Nisht!”
When I told my father a”h, “what would you say if I told you that I was dating …” he said “I would say you could do better”. My father was a baker and he worked at night so he missed a little bit of what was going on. So then I said “what would you say if I told you that I was engaged to ….” he took me in his arms and said “Mazel tov! We should have much nachas from the both of you!”
But he was still a character. On the way to chupah he whispered in my ear. “the car is right out front, just say the word and we turn around and go the other way. I can have you out of here in 10 minutes.”
When I told my sister, she said he told her the same exact thing.
Ess Past Nisht has got to be one of the most inappropriate phrases in the Yiddish language. When somebody says it about a third party, they’re butting into other peoples’ business — inappropriate. When they say it about themselves i.e. “ess past nisht for me to…” that’s gaavah — even worse!
ItcheSrulik; I like your screen name. “Es Past Dich!” 🙂
popa—no,they had just gotten married!
aries–that is funny!why did he say that?
I.S.–“es past nisht” is meant to encourage someone not to act on a lower level than the (high)level h/she is on.It’s supposed to be the least abrasive way to give a person mussar.
BUT YOU ARE SO RIGHT!
USING IT TO DESCRIBE A THIRD PARTY’S ACTIONS IS WRONG AND SERVES NO PURPOSE BESIDES LOSHON HORA.
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Please do not yell in the CR.
Eclipse, I have no idea. Maybe he thought I was nervous and he wanted to lighten things up.
Thanks, it’s almost my real name.
what does the phrase ”its not kedai” mean?
Edited for CAPS?
Why would I be “yelling”–I was agreeing.
I’m confused.
It tranlates into, it not worth it, not practical.
It’s not kedai for me to take my car out into the upcoming snowstorm cuz i might get stuck, and probably also hinder
street cleaning efforts, (what efforts) & emergency vehicles e.g. Hatzolah from doing their jobs.
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