estherh, unfortunately sometimes it takes something major to shake things up. B”H you have the Blessing of really appreciating the Yom Tov and seeing your glass as 1/2 full as opposed to 1/2 empty.
May you find happiness and smiles and emunoa for EVERY Yom Tov for MANY MANY more years to come!
As far as some being short tempered…yes it is sad that many of us aren’t appreciative of being able to enjoy Yom Tov.
estherh, turn up the music and sing and dance your way through your preparations.