Emuna

I heard a great vort that can be related here as well imho.
The mishnah says “hevey dan es kol haadam l’kaf zechus” which translates to “you should judge all man favourably.”
The question is why does it say haadam “the” man it seems extra?

The beautiful answer is that you should read it as “if you judge the [whole] man it will be favourably.
Meaning…if you saw the WHOLE “person” ( as in his “pekeleh” / life story / motivations etc… ) it would be CLEAR why you shouldn’t judge him.
(It’s much better in hebrew but I can’t type it…sorry)
I think you could apply a similar hashkafah here because we can’t see the full picture by anyone or ourselves but if we did…

If you can see your life with emuna, then you have already reached a high level. Very impressive.
I think what you are saying is that when you can understand things, it is easy to have emuna (ie retroactively in your own life) but when you don’t understand things (ie others’ lives) it is hard.
The point is to accept that we can’t possibly fathom Hashem’s ways (even when we think we do) but still we need to believe that everything He does is for our best.
A great (and famous) mashal I heard from R’ Leff many years ago- imagine looking thru a peephole at a surgery in process, not knowing what it was all about. You would see a strangely dressed and masked person, surrounded by others, brandishing sharp weapons and attacking a helpless, sedated person who cannot defend himself. But no, actually the masked man is helping the sick person, the “bad” cuts and “attacks” are meant to cure.
Only when we humble ourselves, and acknowledge that we cannot understand everything, then we can grow in emuna.

By the way, lightbrite, don’t worry about trying to accept everything with emuna all at once. But rather accept little things with emuna…most people get confused (I know I did), but many of the teachings in Rav Arush’s books are on a very high level & it’s not expected of a person to instantly be on those levels. Instead, it’s an overview of what emunah is & what can be achieved & what should be aimed for. However, a person has to work many years in order to achieve true emunah accepting that everything in life is for the best.

People can fake emunah, but Rav Shalom told me that the way you know you have true emunah is when you can get on a buses without any money & each time you have a miracle happen for you: such as someone bumps into you & remembers they owe you money, etc…each time, every time you get on the bus…and yes, I’ve personally witnessed Rav Arush walking out his door to go on a trip & someone was walking up to his house at the same time to gave him a few hundred shekels in tzedakah…another story was that I needed money for a bus ticket to Meron & I asked him if he had any money that I could use to buy a ticket. He told me to wait one minute & there was a hand that came out of the crowd that was gathered around him & the hand gave him a bunch of money. The Rav then gave the money to me & it was the exact amount for my ticket…I still laugh at how absurd it was that it was the exact amount I needed & how the hand just came out of the crowd. I’m laughing right now just thinking about it.

Lightbrite, may I suggest that you get in contact with a professional who can help you? Try contacting Aish.

Hatzlocha.