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Im sick of them. Wouldnt the world be a much better place if they didnt exist? We wouldnt be animals, we would have our brains, our experiences.. There would still be hardships in life to mold us into better ppl. Im not asking why there is suffering, Im asking why we have to deal with our feelings our whole lives.. even if ur not a HSP (highly sensitive person) woudnt life be sooo much easier..? Sure, there wouldnt be much joy but there wouldnt be much pain. (How many people are happy anyway? lol..)
i think emotions are such a big part of life! There is nothing like the joy of a new baby, graduating, getting a job, the list goes on forever! Although pain is painful, it is part of the growing process. We need it in order to become better people! We just need to make sure we take the appropriate action when we ARE suffering. If we wouldn’t have emotions, we would pretty much walk around like robots! I don’t think anyone would want this! Emotions are part of the essence of a person! They help us in so many ways, but i do see why you are saying that. Just think of them as a tool for growth!
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I, for one, am an EXTREMELY highly sensitive person. I have MUCH to write on this subject. Suffice it to say, meanwhile, it had a lot to do with my screen name. (I think you knew that too, you’re just looking to open a conversation) More later (that’s a threat)
I think life is really about being happy. Yes, there are some things that aren’t perfect but when you weigh the options of being happy (most of the time) or not feeling anything, what would you choose? And how often does pain translate into good things? It might not be fun while its happening but so often it triggers positive things.
And what would be the purpose of life if there were no emotions? So many things (especially in a frum lifestyle) are based on emotion (Yomim Tovim, Shabbos, Simchas and for c’v the opposite).
Let me wait for 2756 and 1105 before I continue. They always have something enlightening to share.
Knowing that something makes sense is not experiencing it. An emotion is when the whole you is experiencing the concept. We were not created to figure out that it makes sense. The idea is to become something.
if what you’re saying is is that you’re a deeply emotional person, and wouldn’t it be much easier to be a more down-to-earth less sensitive person, then i would say that in many ways you’re right. except, that i’m sure that you yourself don’t really feel that it’s true. you gave away part of the answer in your question.
1. you’d feel less joy
2. you wouldn’t be as sensitive to others feelings as you are (sensitivity, like all things have 2 sides to it – feel extra sensitive to your own pain and, flip, feel extra sensitive to others
3. everyone in their life experiences pain at some point. i think the ones who have always managed it in lesser doses don’t get all off-track and have the inner strength to deal with more: so it makes you into a stronger person
4. enables you to focus on what’s truly more important – people and spiritual matters, instead of mundane things
is it challenging to not get lost in our feelings and to get out of bed and do what we have to do? yes, but it’s like being able to see colors in world where everyone else is color-blind or the ability to sing beautiful melodies in world that is tone-deaf.
Personally, I feel everything so deeply, I’d feel dead WITHOUT feeling! I love emotions – even if it’s sadness, anger, frustration, although love and joy and gratitude are preferred!
I think emotions are what makes us feel ALIVE…if ever there was or will be a time where people couldn’t feel these things, I’d feel sorry for them. They’d have lost the thrill of living in exchange for robotic responses to the circumstances and conditions around them. Sorry, s2021, I vote no.
sounds like hormones 😉
good for you that you’re dealing with it okay. may Hashem continue to give you the strength to do so.
Knowing that something is good is not the same thing as being happy. Being happy is when you are fully integrated with the fact that it is good. Our job is to change ourselves, not just to know what the correct thing to do is. You seem to be talking about mood, which is a different topic.
PMS?
s2021:
Some men have that issue too.
s2021: Thank you for sharing more. I’m glad you’re not suffering. I’m sorry you’re going through these difficulties.
May I make a point? I’ve seen the following by me and by others. Hashem made us strong, that we can sometimes neglect eating properly and sleeping proper hours (on a schedule..). If we neglect, we often still function.
Under regular circumstances, we can very often deal with the most difficult emotional situations. It’s not easy, but we do.
However, if I’m not eating or sleeping properly (by me, they usually go together), the emotions then really become hard. I’ve already streched myself.
It becomes very very very important to sleep and eat properly, then I can deal with all else. I’ve seen the same by many other people as well.
truth be told – me too. i’m a very physical human being – not a malach, yet 😉
Emotions and Reason are what make us human. Without our ability to think and feel, and aspire to the highest levels of self-actualization, compassion, empathy, joy, anger, sadness, etc., life would be bleak and we would be like automatons. W
We are human beings, made Be Tzelem Elokim,with the imprint of HaShem’s natural law within us. Our ability to feel and think separates us from animals and makes us who and what we are.
I think emotions are a great gift from Hashem. It says that you should daven with emotion. How can you be mechanech kids without emotion? Or understand a friend?
BUT, overreacting isn’t either good. Just like money or fire, we gotta know how to use emotions in the right way.
s2021: I had to break up with a very close friend, and it was SOOO hard for me! At first I missed her like crazy, then I was MAD at her, then I loved her….. Oh, it drove me nuts! The only thing that truly helped me, was thinking, “Gam Zeh Yavor – this too will pass”. Every phase seemed interminable, but it did in fact pass. B”H, they’re all history now (don’t worry, life’s still challenging…). Also remember:CRYING IS NO WEAKNESS!! There’s a time to mourn too! It’s ok to break down and cry (ok I know it’s happening very often, but I’d say they’re ur hormones…). Remember to give yourself credit for the way ur dealing with this difficulty. Good luck!
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