Do you know families that do this?

How would you know what they do privately?

“I mean you have the stuff, its no big deal to do this all the time.”

I’m guessing you don’t do the dishes at your place 🙂

am yisrael chai~ “I’m guessing you don’t do the dishes at your place :)”

you took the words right outta my mouth/keyboard! 🙂

WIY you are so funny….I do this! I am not fancy by ancestry or nature, but I will go get stressed out, even buying fancier linen napkins, or dishes if we have guests coming. But when we’re alone, I’ll even use plastic sometimes, and they way we conduct a tish…whoa, that’s another story.

Anyways, I am getting very nervous, truth be told, because we’re im yirtze Hashem getting a new ideim. Son in law.

I am like ready to scratch and revarnish our dining room chairs and reupholster just to keep up with looking like mentchim or the rosenbergs (who are they anyways?)

But that is what it is. People don’t like being low, people worry what others are thinking, if they are being judged, People like to look like the better class. And if you aren’t that way naturally, then at least pretend to be and put up an act when others peek inside your house.

By the way are you male ? Because that would explain why you have no clue how sensitive this issue is to most balebatish women. My husband also talks like this. He would agree with you 100%.

But thats the name of the game. Look balebatish even if you aren’t by nature.

dz

“but you may want to put away that scissors or he will freak out…”

You REALLY made me laugh out loud!

Arwsf

Mazel tov to you and the whole family!

You are always supposed to be mehudar mitzvah on Shabbos and use your finest. So you might not treat your family to the finest all the time, or trust them with the finest, but you do try your best when you have company to at least do so at that time. It is NOT necessarily for the company it is l’kavod Shabbos AND the company.

Aries

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Bein Hasdurim, as a general rule people should prepare the nices things for shabbos, but if its a question of nice dishes or a rasted mother its the latter not the former, the kids oineg shabbos is the parents talking and listening to them. The geusts oineg shabbos however is a nicely set table and elegantly served food.

deiyezooger; If shabbos doesn’t merit dishes, only guests, I believe it is kind of zilzul in Kavod Shabbos, though I hear your s’vorah. But it isn’t always the case is it? Some people really want to show up for their guest how fancy they are, and it’s just that.

The Mommy of the house should be well rested, dishes can be done after shabbos, the same way the dishes miraculously get done when there is guests. Why can’t the dishes find their way to the table when there is nobody to show of to, just HB”H, Shabbos, the Malochim. Showing our dear children that we respect Shabbos for Shabbos and don’t put on a show only when other people are watching.

Because Mommies don’t always have the Koach to do everything and sometimes Tatties have to help and partake in the mitzvah too!

“If we can get one more we’ll bl”n make a kiddush in the CR.”

You better use your finest china, no exuses this time around…

bein_hasdorim, it is so nice to hear you say that. Unfortunately that is NOT the case in many homes.

We used to do this in our house (paper or plastic unless we had guests), until recently. Now we use china all the time.

We used to use china, only when we had company because we wanted the children to understand that the guests (and inviting them) are important. They already got the message that shabbos is chashuv and important with all the preparations beforehand (the cleaning and cooking of special foods).

The kids are older now and have absorbed both messages. Now that they are old enough and big enough that they dont break every piece of china they put their hands on, we use china for all shabbos and yom tov meals.