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  • December 6, 2012 7:17 am at 7:17 am #607282
    Health
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    There has been a lot talk here about people divorcing their husbands because of Internet addictions. Why? Is it because the husband is doing something wrong (ie. against the Torah) or because you feel neglected and/or rejected to wherever he is going to on the Net?

    If it’s the latter I can somewhat understand, but if it’s the former -not really. Why? Because I’ve seen almost every woman here say they would never marry a guy and most probably divorce a guy with an Internet addiction. Let me assume for a moment that it’s because of religion, but OTOH I’ve seen posts were many women would marry a smoker and noone would divorce a smoker.

    So if it’s because of emotion – who said divorce is permitted because of your emotions? If it’s because of your religion – then how could you marry a smoker or not divorce him – almost e/o, if not e/o nowadays holds it’s Assur to smoke?

    December 6, 2012 12:17 pm at 12:17 pm #910839
    iced
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    A husband by general Jewish law is not required to divorce his wife if he does not want to unless he misbehaved in a specific way against the Torah that gives his wife legally justified cause to demand a divorce in beis din. In the absence of such cause, he may decline to give a requested divorce.

    December 6, 2012 1:43 pm at 1:43 pm #910840
    Yiddishe Kup
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    If the husband were to be michalel shabbos in public or eat pork, it would sufficient reason to divorce. I see no difference.

    As for your other question. It is both a logical decision and an emotional one. Unless it’s a divore required by the Torah, ALL divorces are due to emotions besides for logic.

    December 6, 2012 3:37 pm at 3:37 pm #910841
    🍫Syag Lchochma
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    Health – I think you ask a good question. It reminds me that things are not quite obvious or self explanatory. If you look into what it means to be married to someone with an internet addiction, you may be able to answer your own question. As I have learned from my community work, most of it CANNOT and SHOULD NOT be explained on this forum, and much of it has to do with what the husbands would like their wives to do about the new things they have learned.

    December 6, 2012 7:19 pm at 7:19 pm #910842
    Health
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    Yiddishe Kup -“If the husband were to be michalel shabbos in public or eat pork, it would sufficient reason to divorce. I see no difference.”

    I wasn’t questioning the Halachic right, just what is the difference in these women’s minds between a smoker and an addict.

    Why one and not the other?

    “As for your other question. It is both a logical decision and an emotional one. Unless it’s a divore required by the Torah, ALL divorces are due to emotions besides for logic.”

    Well my point was that the claim of “he isn’t keeping Halacha” isn’t really based on that a lot of time, but on emotions. And this might not be a Torah reason to allow for divorce.

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