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August 16, 2012 4:42 am at 4:42 am #604586greatestMember
How difficult is it for a divorced Kohen to get remarried, considering he cannot married a divorced woman?
August 16, 2012 1:13 pm at 1:13 pm #891811nishtdayngesheftParticipantThe answer likely depends on what led to his divorce in the first place. If it was because he is unfit for marriage, quite likely that information will get and he will find it difficult to get remarried.
August 16, 2012 1:48 pm at 1:48 pm #891812oomisParticipantHe can marry a widow, and he can marry someone who was not married previously. I don’t see the kasha. If you are a kohein and divorced, may you meet your bashert soon.
August 16, 2012 2:52 pm at 2:52 pm #891813EnglishmanMemberKohanim are lucky. Even if they get divorced they still get to marry a besula, as they cannot marry a gerusha. (And the supply of young almanas is insufficient for divorcees. Even an almana is arguably better than a gerusha.)
August 16, 2012 6:31 pm at 6:31 pm #891814WolfishMusingsParticipantKohanim are lucky. Even if they get divorced they still get to marry a besula, as they cannot marry a gerusha. (And the supply of young almanas is insufficient for divorcees. Even an almana is arguably better than a gerusha.)
I fail to see how divorced kohanim are luckier than non-kohanim. All the options that are available for kohanim are also available to non-kohanim.
Of course, my failure to see this must stem from the fact that I am a stupid apikorus who doesn’t understand the added kedusha of kohanim like Englishman (or whatever he’s calling himself these days) does and if only I were not a piece of human garbage, I might be able to see how kohanim are luckier in this regard.
The Wolf
August 16, 2012 10:11 pm at 10:11 pm #891816ConcernedMemberParticipantEnglishman, your post is creepy.
You actually sound like a Saudi Arabian there.
Wow.
August 16, 2012 10:34 pm at 10:34 pm #891817OneOfManyParticipantSaudi Arabian…that was not the first epithet that sprang to mind, but it is quite apt…
August 16, 2012 10:54 pm at 10:54 pm #891818jamesParticipantAs a kohen, I can say that just like everything else in life, each plus has its minus. A kohen has its advantages by being a kohen, but there is a disadvantage that you cannot marry certain people.
I can say from personal experience while dating, that there were people that I wanted to date and thought would be compatible, that I was unable to date because either they were giyoret, or had other issues in which halacha is clear that I would not be able to marry them.
Especially older single kohanim, do not have it easy, because for whatever reason their pool of available older singles is much more limited.
For anyone to say that a kohein is lucky to only be able to marry a besulah is a totally ignorant thing to say, and one that lacks compassion for kohanim trying to get married and follow halacha.
August 17, 2012 12:04 am at 12:04 am #891819R.T.ParticipantIt’s the other way around; divorced girls (& the like) cannot date or marry Kohanim.
August 17, 2012 12:54 am at 12:54 am #891820EnglishmanMemberWolf: I meant lucky in the sense that they’re considered holier than others (and due to their state of holiness they cannot marry a gerusha.)
CM: I know, it’s halacha. But some people don’t like some halachas, so the scream taliban and the like. Nevertheless, it is true that being a gerusha is considered a mum (defect) in a certain sense, which is why Jewish Law prohibits a Kohen from marrying her. Even being an almana, which is less of a mum than a gerusha as a regular Kohen can marry her, is still considered a bit of mum, as we see that Halacha precludes a Kohen Godol from marrying one.
August 17, 2012 2:17 am at 2:17 am #891821Charles ShortMemberThis question presumes it is somehow “not a problem” for the Kohen who has never been married; but regardless, something about reality always makes the woman you can’t marry so very interesting.
August 17, 2012 5:11 am at 5:11 am #891822marbehshalomParticipanthey GREATEST–dont get divorced!! your current wife is better then whatever ‘s out there. i am telling you they are all the same.
August 17, 2012 2:08 pm at 2:08 pm #891823smartcookieMemberMarbehshalom- how many wives did you live with that you give such brilliant advice?
August 17, 2012 2:49 pm at 2:49 pm #891824WolfishMusingsParticipantWolf: I meant lucky in the sense that they’re considered holier than others (and due to their state of holiness they cannot marry a gerusha.)
Nice try, but that’s not how your first post actually reads.
The Wolf
August 17, 2012 3:56 pm at 3:56 pm #891825gavra_at_workParticipantBut some people don’t like some halachas, so the scream taliban and the like.
Englishman, what do you have against the Taliban?
August 17, 2012 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm #891826Sam2ParticipantWolf: I actually think that’s what he meant (especially because of the parenthetical at the end), but I do agree that it came across disturbingly differently.
August 17, 2012 7:25 pm at 7:25 pm #891827EnglishmanMemberSam2, Thank you. You’re indeed correct. I did in fact mean it as you understand it (and how I explained it in my followup.) But I’m still not getting how I was misunderstood. I perhaps could have worded it more clearly, but what did my original comment unintentionally come across sounding like it meant?
August 19, 2012 5:19 am at 5:19 am #891828popa_bar_abbaParticipantBlazes Englishman, you can also just blow yourself up and get 70!
August 19, 2012 1:58 pm at 1:58 pm #891829Sam2ParticipantEnglishman: Popa’s joke is what your statement was reminiscent of. Now do you see how it came across incorrectly?
August 19, 2012 2:21 pm at 2:21 pm #891830EnglishmanMemberSam: Hmm, I suppose I could hear someone seeing that. But so what? Aside from the fact that I in no way, shape or form intended that thought, what I posted is halachicly (and practically) accurate.
gavra: What do I have against a group of cold-blooded murderers? That they are killers. I don’t have any problem with them executing an adulteress, but I certainly do have a problem with them killing someone on that pretext without any solid proof – which is what they are guilty of.
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