LU -“1. That’s just life. Sometimes people end up married to people who are not right for them and there’s nothing that anyone can do about it because there was is way to know beforehand.
2. Someone had a serious problem that there was no way to know beforehand.
3. Someone had a serious problem that could have been known beforehand.
4. They weren’t a good shidduch, maybe one of them didn’t really like the other one enough to be marrying them, but felt pressurred to get married and this could have been prevented if they either had gone out longer or there had been less pressure put on them or they had used more common sense before getting engaged.
5. The marriage could have worked out if both had been willing to make it work.”
They are all true!
Sometimes Hashem wants people to get married, even if it’s not the greatest Shidduch. People are sometimes given a Nisayon, which they didn’t ask for.