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November 19, 2010 2:34 am at 2:34 am #593121jhcvivgwryParticipant
When davening (with Kovunah) please be careful that your Kovunah doesn’t disturb or bother someone else.I’ll give some examples:
1.Davening to loud
2.If you daven a long Shmonei Esrei daven in the front that way the guy in front of you doesn’t have to wait till Aleinu to take 3 steps back
3.Don’t daven Shmonei Esrei in someone else’s ear
4.Your Teffilin bag and your hat don’t need to take up 4 seats
5.When putting on your Tallis you don’t have to give the guy next to you a reminder(by wacking him with your Tzitzis) that your sitting there.
Thank You!
November 19, 2010 3:20 am at 3:20 am #1195688WolfishMusingsParticipantAh, when I first saw the thread, I thought it was going to be out davening in situations where, say, you and your friend are both competing for the same job (i.e. where the object of what you are davening for comes at someone else’s expense).
The Wolf
(Now that I brought it up, I’m going to have to give some serious thought as to the morality of that.)
November 21, 2010 9:46 pm at 9:46 pm #1195689HaLeiViParticipantHayad Hashem Tiktzor?
November 22, 2010 12:08 am at 12:08 am #1195690minyan galMemberAnother thing that I find annoying is when doing a prayer out loud in unison, someone is racing far ahead of whomever is leading the davening. It is distracting and causes some people to lose their place. The next prayer won’t start until the leader does anyway, so slow down.
November 22, 2010 2:21 am at 2:21 am #1195691jhcvivgwryParticipantHaLeiVi – Hayad Hashem Tiktzor?
What does that mean?
November 22, 2010 2:23 pm at 2:23 pm #1195692HaLeiViParticipantThat is a response to the Wolf. I’m saying, although you know that someone else wants what you want, can’t Hashem satisfy everyone? this is what Hashem told Moshe Rabbeinu when he asked how Hashem can supply a whole nation with meat.
November 22, 2010 2:56 pm at 2:56 pm #1195693WolfishMusingsParticipantalthough you know that someone else wants what you want, can’t Hashem satisfy everyone?
I never said otherwise.
The Wolf
November 22, 2010 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm #1195694noitallmrParticipant“When putting on your Tallis you don’t have to give the guy next to you a reminder(by wacking him with your Tzitzis) that your sitting there”
ha ha thanks for pointing this out- i always wondered why the guy behind me yelled OUCH every time I took off my Talis- lol!
November 22, 2010 5:06 pm at 5:06 pm #1195695WIYMemberWolf
The correct thing to do is Daven that you should get it. Not Chas Veshalom having in mind that your friend shouldn’t. Just focus on what you need. If you are supposed to get it Hashem will give it to you. Don’t worry about your friend, you can Daven for him too that he should have parnassah if you’d like, but Hashem has a Cheshbon for everyone.
November 22, 2010 8:26 pm at 8:26 pm #1195696yaff80ParticipantOh!
Also, please dont stress the “ches” and “z” “S and” soundsespecially during quiet Shmoine esrai.
This is most annoying to other mispalelim who are trying to concentrate on their tefila but are being disturbed by “ch”s and “s”s being said so “thick” and loud.
Generally, think of others. Dont be selfish. In this zechus, your prayers will be answered.
November 22, 2010 8:53 pm at 8:53 pm #1195697HaLeiViParticipantThis reminds me of a joke about someone praying and overhears the next guy asking his Maker for $100. The man pulls out a hundred and hands it to the other fellow. The recipient thanks him profusely and walks out. Now the generous one continues praying, “Now that I have your undivided attention…”
November 23, 2010 2:30 am at 2:30 am #1195698jhcvivgwryParticipantYaff80
I agree with you 100%+ (That was part of #3 – Don’t daven Shmonei Esrei in someone else’s ear)
November 23, 2010 2:39 am at 2:39 am #1195699jhcvivgwryParticipantForget about taking off your Tallis , when ppl. put on their Tallis they give the guy next to them “Malkos”! (It REALLY hurts , try it , ask someone (or do it by yourself) to wack you with Tzitzis . But DON’T BLAME ME IF IT HURTS. 🙂
December 15, 2010 8:40 am at 8:40 am #1195700blueprintsParticipantWhen certain people insist on finishing shema out loud when the shaliach tzibbur has moved on to ve’emuna
When some people say sorry shout tzeeetzis in shema
December 16, 2010 2:48 am at 2:48 am #1195704jhcvivgwryParticipantWhen certain people insist on finishing shema out loud when the shaliach tzibbur has moved on to ve’emuna
Think that’s bad , what about when your(trying to) davening shmonei esrai & the guy is saying shma – OUT LOUD!
November 29, 2016 5:14 pm at 5:14 pm #1195705mik5ParticipantBump.
November 29, 2016 7:24 pm at 7:24 pm #1195706Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant“When certain people insist on finishing shema out loud when the shaliach tzibbur has moved on to ve’emuna”
“Think that’s bad , what about when your(trying to) davening shmonei esrai & the guy is saying shma – OUT LOUD!”
I would be “dan l’kaf zchus” and assume they don’t realize. My mother told me recently that she had to wait until I finished bentching to bentch because I was bentching so loud. I had no idea I was bentching out loud.
November 29, 2016 7:31 pm at 7:31 pm #1195707hujuParticipantA lot of posters are awfully cranky about other people’s quirks and breaches of etiquette. The mitzvah of chesed should address most of the issues raised.
November 29, 2016 8:50 pm at 8:50 pm #1195708catch yourselfParticipantLt. Birnbaum related that he once asked Rav Chaim Kanievsky what Kavana he should have when putting on his tallis. Rav Chaim told him he should have Kavana not to whip the person next to him in the eye.
November 29, 2016 9:04 pm at 9:04 pm #1195709Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant“A lot of posters are awfully cranky about other people’s quirks and breaches of etiquette. The mitzvah of chesed should address most of the issues raised.”
Huju +1
November 30, 2016 12:28 am at 12:28 am #1195710Torah613TorahParticipantWhat about davening for a job that you are competing with a frum person for?
November 30, 2016 12:51 am at 12:51 am #1195711Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantIf you really feel you are on the level for such a thing, you can choose not to apply for the job in the first place. But I don’t think that is usually the right approach for most people.
But if you are already applying for the job anyhow, then you should put in full hishtadlus which would include davening.
Basically, you have to decide if you are applying for the job or not. If you are, then you are, and you do full hishtadlus.
November 30, 2016 2:58 am at 2:58 am #1195712LightbriteParticipantWhen not just daven dutch?
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