I have a question on this whole “ladies first” thing.
Some of the comments here as well as something else I saw on the topic got me thinking about this. I still am pretty convinced that as per Rav Shlomo Zalman, there are heterim nowadays, although w/o seeing it inside, it is hard to know to what extent it is b’dieved.
But, let’s assume for a moment that it’s technically completely muttar. Let’s assume that you never saw any specific source that it was assur. Something can be a problem in terms of tznius even if it is not brought down anywhere, simply because it is clearly a problem, and if one knows that is the case, obviously they should try to avoid it if possible.
I got the impression from some of the postings here that this may possibly fall in that category. I would like to know from the male posters here: If you had never heard that there was any halachic issue involved, would you consider it a problem in terms of tznius? (I hope that’s not inappropriate, I am asking l’toeles, since I have no other way of knowing. You can answer with a simple “yes” or “no”).