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October 15, 2010 3:06 am at 3:06 am #592639smartcookieMember
Enough with the Shidduch crisis! Married couples deserve dates too!
Any ideas for short outings that are inexpensive and enjoyable? Some time to spend together in the early night hours?
(Please don’t turn this thread into a controversy if one is allowed to speak to his wife other than about their children and painting their apt. Were just looking for ideas here.)
October 15, 2010 5:16 am at 5:16 am #701033Brooklyn YentaParticipanta walk on the boardwalk, or even go to a lounge and pretend you’re on a real date 🙂
October 15, 2010 8:55 am at 8:55 am #701034Ben TorahParticipantWho’e gonna watch the kids?
October 15, 2010 11:47 am at 11:47 am #701035apushatayidParticipantMy wife and I love to play Boggle while discussing the children and the color of paint for the living room.
October 15, 2010 12:19 pm at 12:19 pm #701036seeallsidesParticipantYou mean like ShopRite after 10:00 PM or if you really lucked out with a babysitters WALMART !!
October 15, 2010 12:25 pm at 12:25 pm #701037minyan galMemberGo for a walk or car ride and then for ice cream or cappucino.
Go to lecture or cultural event on a topic that you both find interesting.
Visit a museum or art gallery.
Go window shopping in an ethnically different area than you live in – Chinatown, Italian or Greek district.
Go to a store and amuse each other by both trying on silly hats – for this activity you must be agile enough to beat a hasty retreat.
Just enjoy each other’s company.
October 15, 2010 12:32 pm at 12:32 pm #701038Ben TorahParticipantWalMart near Jews? You must be referring to the summer in the Catskills…
October 15, 2010 12:58 pm at 12:58 pm #701039SacrilegeMemberThis isn’t necessarily cheap and you have to have a good sister/sister-in-law (like me 🙂 to watch your kids, but its good for once or twice a year.
Book a short get a way in the city! You can get a really fancy hotel room for half the price on Priceline when you name your own price. At night you eat out dinner and in the morning you have brunch and spend the day in the City.
It’s like a mini stay-cation.
(This isn’t limited to NY)
Enjoy!
October 15, 2010 1:03 pm at 1:03 pm #701040smartcookieMemberThank you everybody! With the winter arriving we gotta find some nice indoor places. I do like some suggestions here. Any more?
October 15, 2010 1:17 pm at 1:17 pm #701041SacrilegeMemberwhere do you live?
October 15, 2010 1:36 pm at 1:36 pm #701042chesednameParticipantmy friend has been taking his wife out on rosh chodosh since they’re married. (always restaurant, sometimes something in addition)
20 years!!!!!!!!!!!
October 15, 2010 2:04 pm at 2:04 pm #701043justsmile613ParticipantBen Torah— Not EVERYONE lives in Brooklyn. There are plenty of walmarts in NJ and MD and everywhere else.
October 15, 2010 2:06 pm at 2:06 pm #701044bptParticipantFrom my experiecne, nothing beats a weekend in a hotel, (there are dozens to choose from)but it must be a place where meals are served.
Eating out is a close second, but it must be place with linen table cloths and reservaions required.
No idea what the magic is, but Mrs loves the opportunity to get dressed, makeup, the whole bit. I guess its the see and be seen phenom.
Walking is nice too, but nothing like a weekend / meal.
October 15, 2010 2:08 pm at 2:08 pm #701045smartcookieMemberI do live in brooklyn.
Chesedname- that’s beautiful but I do find that you need some smaller outings more often than that.
Sac- I think of that idea pretty often. But I can’t decide if it pays to spend $$ on a hotel room and stay in the busy city life.
To me, a hotel vacation belongs far from home with a change of scenery!
October 15, 2010 2:14 pm at 2:14 pm #701046SacrilegeMemberI enjoy the city and I do it often with friends, it still feels like a get a way even tho I’m there almost every day anyways…
If you don’t want to do it in the city you can do it in NJ they have some beautiful hotels there too (and you dont have to drive too far either).
October 15, 2010 2:19 pm at 2:19 pm #701047Ben TorahParticipantjustsmile613: I did hear that there are Jews out of Brooklyn.
October 15, 2010 2:31 pm at 2:31 pm #701048WolfishMusingsParticipantVarious ideas (some may only be appropriate in some seasons) mostly centered around the NYC area — but some can be done anywhere:
Go upstate to Harriman State Park or Bear Mt. State Park (or some other nice park area near you) and hike and take in the beautiful fall foliage.
Picnic — with lunch and board games.
Take a Circle Line cruise around Manhattan
Observation deck of the Empire State Building
Catch an IMAX movie (Liberty Science Center usually has a good “non-entertainment” IMAX movie playing all the time).
Go to a drive-in movie (there’s one up in Warwick, NY).
Dinner followed by a star-lit stroll.
Classical music concert performance.
Bowling
Pottery painting
Share a large ice cream sundae
Take a ride on the carousel in Central Park
Walk on the boardwalk
Purposely get caught in a rainstorm.
Eat a picnic on the beach, listening to the pounding surf
The Wolf
October 15, 2010 2:31 pm at 2:31 pm #701049aries2756ParticipantEver think of Connecticut? If you live in Brooklyn that is a great get away. Or NJ, or PA. Not too far away and beautiful with antiques shops or any type of activity the two of you like to do. Pick anywhere in the tri-state area and then go for the best priced accommodations that you can afford.
October 15, 2010 2:46 pm at 2:46 pm #701050WolfishMusingsParticipantWho’e gonna watch the kids?
Babysitter. Why is that such a problem?
Or, in my case, just leave them home alone. 🙂
The Wolf
October 15, 2010 2:48 pm at 2:48 pm #701051tomim tihyeMemberJust remember, no outings til tuition’s paid in full 🙁
October 15, 2010 2:49 pm at 2:49 pm #701052Dr. PepperParticipantWhen we first got married we used to try to go the same places we went on dates and recreate our dates- from memory. It was lots of fun trying to remember the topics that came up as we were by whatever landmark. Being that we were married already we were able to tell each other what was really going through our minds.
On the fourth anniversary of our first date I came home from work a little early, helped my wife clean up and suggested that we go for a walk with the kids since it was early. (She had no idea what the date was.)
I made sure to somehow end up in one of the spots we walked by on our first date. When we were at that spot my wife exclaimed “hey, don’t you remember when we were in this exact spot exactly four years ago?”.
“Sure I remember, I remember trying to imagine what we would look like four years later when we would come back with our three kids.”
“It’s a good thing you didn’t tell me what you were thinking”, my wife answered, “or we wouldn’t be here now”.
October 15, 2010 2:55 pm at 2:55 pm #701053SacrilegeMemberIf you want a short get-a-way like a 2 dayer go to Cape May in NJ its gorgeous!
October 15, 2010 4:39 pm at 4:39 pm #701054mybatMemberGo for dinner once a week and go away together on vacation without kids once a year!
October 15, 2010 4:45 pm at 4:45 pm #701055Ben TorahParticipantOnce a week? Twice a week is minimum. And that once a year vacation without kids should always be international.
October 15, 2010 4:46 pm at 4:46 pm #701056apushatayidParticipantSend your kids away for shabbos. It costs nothing except the small gift to whichever parents/siblings takes the kids.
October 15, 2010 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #701057squeakParticipantBen Torah-
Just for the record, does ‘international’ mean ‘outside of Brooklyn’?
October 15, 2010 5:17 pm at 5:17 pm #701058mybatMemberBen torah….. It is international. 😉
October 15, 2010 7:08 pm at 7:08 pm #701059smartcookieMemberOk my tuition is paid and ill get a babysitter 🙂
But I’m not looking for overnights. I’m just looking for somewhere to go for abt 2 hrs at night after supper.
October 15, 2010 7:28 pm at 7:28 pm #701060oomisParticipantWe like to sit on a dock at our neighborhood. The way it is designed, you can almost feel as though you are on the deck of a cruise ship. It is very relaxing, and we will sometimes bring along a snack and spend time feeding the ducks and seagulls that congregate there. But the illusion of being on a cruise is most vivid when there are no birds around.
October 15, 2010 7:48 pm at 7:48 pm #701061bp13ParticipantBP Totty you say there are dozens of kosher hotels for shabbos with food maybe you can name some because the NY/NJ area have barely any real hotels with kosher food for a shabbos getaway.
October 15, 2010 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm #701062SacrilegeMemberTarget! plus they have Starbucks.
October 16, 2010 6:22 pm at 6:22 pm #701064FunnyBunnyMemberAnyone have any ideas for a “stay-cation” in the Tel Aviv area? We have a hotel room there booked, and we need ideas on what to do…
October 17, 2010 2:14 pm at 2:14 pm #701065whatrutalkingabtMemberSmartcookie-
i have a few ideas if you are looking to do something locally in bklyn for a couple of hours at nite
1-drive to the Brooklyn Bridge and walk accross- the view at nite is magnificent. and it doesnt take longto drive there just might take long to find parking 😉
2-Pick up ice cream and take a walk with it to your local park. Sit on the bench or the swings and shmooze
3-Go to the brooklyn marriott and watch the other dates
4-Go to target or toys r us and pick up a board game. Take it to the park
5-just take a drive
Enjoy!
October 17, 2010 6:16 pm at 6:16 pm #701066smartcookieMemberWhatru-
Thanks! I like #1 and #5 best.
Brooklyn bridge is beautiful. We do that sometimes.
And I still love to just sit in the car and ride around! (And shmooze!)
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