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my kid was born right before rosh hashana so when should we make the upsherin, before hes 3, erev rosh hashana (a sunday) or the sunday before yom kippur and why do you think that
On his third birthday. Why otherwise?
If your minhag is to not cut hair before three, then don’t do it before he’s three. After his birthday? Do it whenever you want… there’s no halacha in this matter. If the day before Yom Kippur isn’t convenient, then do it on a weekday between between RH and Succos or do it after Succos.
The Wolf
Whatever day is most convenient. It’s all barely a Minhag. There are no Halachic obligations of the date.
Mazel tov! Upsherins are beautiful!
It depends if you’re planning an event and inviting family, Erev Yom Tov might be a very hard day for that.
How about doing it right b4 the shabbos before Rosh Hashana to avoid the Erev rush?
Coffee, you’re saying Sunday is the most convenitent day which makes sense. However, sunday Erev Rosh Hashana would be difficult for a “party” in my home. You gotta be all ready for y”t then.
I guess it’s up to your wife’s preference.
My yekkishe cousins walked around with short hair from the age of two or something like that, but without a kappul and tzitzis until they were three.
I don’t understand exactly why they didn’t give a kappul and tzitzis before three if they cut the hair before three, but the kids looked like goyim 🙂
I personally only had a hair cut at three because i am litvish on the maternal side and my grandad is makpid but apparently there is no mekor for it at all.
I recall my son’s upsherin which was on 8 Tishrei, so the day before Erev Yom Kippur. For me it was harder doing the haircutting (and all of the activities associated with that – going to rabbonim for snips plus a festive meal) than it was to give birth at that time of year. I plan on splitting up the celebrations associated with his Bar Mitzvah in 2 years.
If Sunday is the day you want to do it, then I would suggest doing it the following week since doing it on erev RH, unless you are not making any meals in your house over those 2 days, would be almost impossible for your wife to enjoy.
When I asked my LOR, he told me to cut the hair the Sunday before my son turned three, because as soon as he is 3 he should have a haircut and yalmuka. I was told to push it up not off.
Which rebbe shlita?
why? do you want to meet him there?
I’m always ready to join a simcha.
What is the source and reason for an upsherin? I’ve always wondered this.
So the hair is like the fruit of the tree?
Leaves.
a person is compared to a “tree of the field” and can’t pick it’s fruit for 3 years
Except that, I believe, there is no issur to pick the fruit of a tree of orlah. You can’t eat it, of course, and it’s assur b’hana’a, but I believe there is no issur from picking the fruit off of the tree.
The Wolf
And what is the source?
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The way I always heard it, which doesn’t make sense either, is that it’s Chinuch on the Mitzvah of Peiyos.
My minhag is we do cut hair but do not cut fingernails until the boy is 3. Because the fingers are like tree branches, so fingernails are more comparable to tree fruits. At the ushering party we serve the fingernails to the parents and grandparents to eat for the first time (it’s a big kibbud).
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