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According to shlomo carlebach, shabbos is not only on shabbos. I assume that means motzaei shabbos is also not only on shabbos.
I have a friend who crowdsources his dating. He posts all the resumes he gets on his facebook page. Then, every time he breaks up with a girl and wants to go out with another one, he puts a poll up on his facebook page so all his facebook friends can vote for who he should go out with next.
He says the system is working really well and he has gone out with over 200 girls like this in the past 3 years. (For a frame of reference, many girls I know go on only a few dates a year.)
Do you think this system should be spread to other people, since it works so well?
Facebook is assur.
Not only is motzei shabbos not only on shabbos, it’s never on shabbos.
I may be an old fogey, but IMHO that is not a proper thing to do. Who is to say these girls would WANT their personal info plastered all over the Internet? It is extremely disrespectful to have strangers voting on your date-worthiness, also. The whole thing smacks of a lack of tznius and honor. Personal profiles, are just that – personal. They are given to the person for whom it is shayach, and not meant to be the subject of a public social network’s popularity contest that any and all can participate in.
I think you are probably making this up to get reactions but obviously that’s a sick thing to do. It’s basically demeaning the value of the girls. But again I don’t think that’s true.
wow what a sicko! And the girls he goes out with must be crazy.
one of many- please elaborate on facebook being assur?
Two hundred girls? Three years? I don’t think his system is working so great!
A lot of very serious people around here have some heavy-duty lightening-up to do.
It will make you go off the derech. Any shidduch that comes out of it is a treife relationship.
You write that “the system is working really well”.
What’s his point? To date as many girls as he can? Is that the bar of ‘how well’ one’s doing in shidduchim?
So 10+ for him! He’s gone out with 200 peoples wives…
Bottom line, his goal is obviously not to get married and to find a wife, because last I checked, marriage is not a popularity contest on facebook…
& how exactly does his “friends” determine who he should go out with? The prettiest picture wins the prize?
Logician +1
Folks, think about the Carlebach reference.
No one needs to lighten up. Assuming this is true and not a Purim Shpiel, it is reprehensible (and if you were one of the girls whose personal info was posted without her permission, you would feel that way, too, especially if you were voted Off the Island by his immature friends). If it IS a joke, then hahaha, we fell for it. Happy Purim :p
Nu. Facebook is assur. Why are we still talking about this.
The rest of them are what they are. But oomis, you’re a veteran of the coffee room. Don’t you know Popa yet?
I must admit though, as familiar as I am with a very large body of the work of the Holy R’ Shlomo, I don’t get the reference.
Assuming this is true and not a Purim Shpiel
Don’t assume that.
Had I thought he was serious, I’d be just as offended as you are.
If it IS a joke, then hahaha, we fell for it. Happy Purim :p
If you recall, popa enjoys the occasional “motzaei Shabbos troll thread”. According to popa’s logic, Carlebach would allow him this pleasure on any day of the week.
Folks, think about the Carlebach reference.”
Pops, that’s what made me initially think you wuz funnin’ with us. But, ya know what – I would not be a bit surprised to hear that some irresponsible and immature guy (or girl, for that matter) would do this.
Thanks popa. This thread made me laugh just like all your other ones do. Keep it coming!
Brooklyn bridge is for sale…. cheap!
How gullible can we be?
OneOfMany –
It will make you go off the derech. Any shidduch that comes out of it is a treife relationship.
Well said!
Can we focus the thread on how “Facebook” is gematria “Sitra Achra” now please? I think that proves the point…
I’d say that it hasn’t worked at all, because presumably his point is to get married to one of these girls, not simply to go out with all of them. Couldn’t he pick one of those 200 girls to marry?
Okay, that was me failing at zealot-troll. This was somewhat serious, though –> “Any shidduch that comes out of it is a treife relationship.”
Hi PBA.
Are you serious? That sounds idiotic. Just the “public-ness” of it makes it seem trashy. Unless I am missing something..
Yup great system if ur GOAL is date as many girls as he can!!
Succesful system?? NO! Not the least bit.
popa, I had to come out of the bunker to congratulate you on the funniest troll thread you’ve started in a while. But I’m disappointed that you claimed in the OP that a friend did this instead of saying you did it. You can’t take the heat anymore when people think you did something dolty?
back to the Starbucks bunker….
lol
I would not be a bit surprised to hear that some irresponsible and immature guy (or girl, for that matter) would do this.
Probably more of a guy thing.
I’m glad we’ve established this was a joke bec lord…
The rest of them are what they are. But oomis, you’re a veteran of the coffee room. Don’t you know Popa yet?”
I was being dan l’cuff shtuss…
popa: Your logic is a bit faulty. There are plenty of instances where boy and girl have dated before and then picked back up after a while. In that case the boy would have already met girl.
Besides, Achasveirosh tried something close to this idea thousands of years ago. So you and your friend are pretty archaic 🙂
Why is it funny to start troll threads?
The original post wasn’t even funny. Not as in because if it was true it would be sick, just as in that was a lame joke in any case.
Seems like a waste of time, why we even giving this attention?
Why am I even responding?
Hi PBA.
Please dont switch horses in mid stream and compare apples to oranges.
You were not talking about marriage.
You were talking about a guy who posts resumes of girls on his facebook and has gone out with over 200 girls in the past five years.
That, to me, is not only trashy, but heartbreaking. He has a lot of mechila to ask for.
“Seeking” ones beshert this way is just wrong. He seems to be too attached to his revolving door system and missing the point.
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Hi PBA.
An argument has to be about the same issue, and not another, new one. (an opinion on crowdsourcing versus marriage).
Sure you can try to find the truth and revise your view. That is admirable.
If you want to clarify, here is a reminder of the conversation:
1. I commented on the “system” in looking to become married, resulting in putting up resumes on facebook and dating over 200 girls in five years.
2. You replied to the effect that is not ‘marriage’ suppose to a public communal event?
While I am weak on yeshiva hock, what shychis does marriage being public have to do with criticizing the ‘means’ someone is employing to allegedly become married?
To me, that is not switching horses in midstream. That is just falling off the horse and landing in the water.
Anyway..hatzlacha to this guy. I hope the system works for him and he finds his beshert and does not need this “system”, and that in the meantime, he is not hurting people along the way.
He’s not married. Therefore, it failed.
And please, 200+ girls?! I doubt he wants to get married, and after that number has any idea what he’s looking for.
Just goes to show how desperate some girls are.
“And he got esther. Sounds good to me”
His marriage was also great. He didn’t see his wife in over 30 days although they were living in the same palace. He didn’t even know who is wife was. – These are all great segulos for Shalom Bayis 🙂
Maybe its not such a bad idea after all 🙂
My wife would never make me pizza. She thinks I’m obese.
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