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If any Rav runs out of a chassanah screaming “pritzus” because the Chassan/Kalah sat next to one another in front of hundreds of guests at the chassanah, I think we all know who has a problem. (Hint: its not the chasson or the kalah or the photographer).
At my wedding the choson was led my the two fathers and the kallah with the two mothers. The kallah did not go to the men’s side but I went and set together with my kallah on the women’s side.,
Back in Europe the weddings took place in a house with a lchaim and then the family had Sheva brachos
Just to clarify, the choson and challah entered together into the wedding hall on the women’s side.
Joseph,
Why are you assuming the coming on to the dance floor thing is a non-Jewish custom? Have you been to non-Jewish weddings where they did this?
I assume it happens at Jewish weddings because the Chosson and Kallah separate from everyone else in the Yichud room and then come back and rejoin the wedding. But at non-Jewish weddings the bride and groom don’t leave the wedding party and then return, they are there the whole time.
Was this Tales of the Shul, from Rabbi Emanuel Feldman from Atlanta Georgia?
Joseph,
I have, thankfully, never been to a non-Jewish wedding. I suspect that what they do is substantially different than what happens at frum weddings. At frum weddings, the couple comes in together usually at a door that opens to both sides of the mechitza, and then they immediately go to their respective gender’s side. I can’t imagine anything like that happening at a non-Jewish wedding. Maybe ask a non-Jew who has been to a frum wedding if this it is similar to what they do.I am also skeptical that they do the “now for the very first time” shtick. Because for them, after the wedding ceremony they are fully married, so when they come to the dance hall it isn’t the very first time.
When dancing there is no mixed dancing but when they have the meal, they eat together on the women’s side.
There are two tables set up for the choson. A small one on the men’s side and a large one at the women’s side.
Who are any of you to say or quote to suit yourselves what is it is not allowed . Stop being mevatel Xmas and learn Torah lishma having a go and insulting each other is not lishma
The yetzar hara wins againGoing thru many of these posts one can see the obvious ‘love’ some express towards chasidim. Yes the minhogim the chasidim have usually comes from previous tzadikim including lclapping on Shabbos kodesh Chasidim do not go int the ladies hall to dance I n front of the Kalla. So to the poster who said ‘who cares ‘ I say you should care. Strech limos, and all those meshugaasen are not chassidic ‘minhagim’
The frum world is careful that there should be a mechitza between the women and the men at least by dancing. Not only do the women only dance with women and the men only with men, we also have a mechitza between the women and the men so that the men don’t see the women dancing.
It is therefore upon us to PROTEST the practice that the Choson & Kallah Walk Together Into the Wedding Hall from the women’s side. Because the chosson is not supposed to see women dancing. Also, in order for the chosson to get to the men’s side, they usually open part of the mechitza. And usually a few minutes before he enters. The women then dance while the men are watching!
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