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summer is here. whenever hear a story of a child left in a car , i get worried, as i have had 2 close calls (bh not too close).just today my wife asked me to shut the stove off after ten minutes, and i did – 30 minutes later. we all can forget, but what eitzahs does the tzibur have to prevent a tragedy in the car r’l?
farfrumt: How did you have 2 close calls?
I always check the car before I walk away. It is a force of habit.
If you’re a man, put your HAT on the seat next to the child.
If you’re a woman, put your POCKETBOOK on the seat next to the child!!!
what a great idea!
when i have something important at home or Shul, or wherever, and im afraid i might forget it, i put my car keys near it. more than i few times i got to my car and realized i left my keys and i remembered the other important item
i never thought of applying that aitzah to this.
remarkable that a hat or purse can be better remembered than your own child.
cmon, seriously.
this is inexcusable!
They have nowadays a special car alarm that works with kids in the back. I don’t know how exactly it works, but if you leave the kid in the back, it goes off. Anybody, who has young kids, should consider buying it. I don’t think that they are that expensive. You definitely need to get one, if you’re the absentee type. There is nothing that is foolproof, but this seems to be the best insurance. Even though a few different products have been developed, after a web search it seems the only one that actually made it to market is Baby Alert child minder system. The only place that I know is selling these is Baby Alert online. They have two systems, both starting at $70 for one kid. I also think the auto stores who put in alarms, are now putting in back-seat baby alarms which are hard-wired.
These kind of stories happen way to often and are reported in the non Jewish media it can be a big chillul hashem of course the childs safety is the number one concern, sometimes this happens because of multitasking
trying to do a million things at once but what if the one thing u forget is the most precious thing of all?
the idea mewho, if you would stop and think about it, instead of immediately being critical, especially without adding anything helpful of your own is:
to associate something that one is always carrying (ie purse for many women) and would sense it missing immediately,
to associate it with something (baby) that is NOT always present, especially for men.
people are human, sometimes they are preoccupied with worries or other things, some people intensely preoccupied, mistakes happen, even deadly ones, it is a shame, it is a tragedy. and if people need help tp prevent it, then they should avail themselves of it.
Mod -80 – Even though logically I can agree with mewho, I’d never post it. I try to keep my posts practically helpful. I know, I don’t always succeed.
I think CSO Radio in Lakewood sells such a device.
1-877-987-8877 – [email protected].
If anyone wants an idea for making an invention, someone ought to invent a little gadget like a gps, that sits somewhere in your car, and when it is alerted to the fact you’ve shut off the motor and are preparing to exit the vehicle, it makes a loud announcement “CHECK YOUR CAR SEAT FOR ANY CHILDREN”. as a reminder.
OR mothers DO NOT SEND CHILDREN OFF WITH FATHERS. Men are not made for multi tasking.
I don’w know if this will help in the dead of summer vacation, but during the school year and the child is expected to be dropped off at the babysitter, if the child doesn’t show at the right time the babysitter should call the parents on the cell phone just to make sure everything is alright…
Put a text message alert on your phone for any drive that automatically texts you to check your child.
“remarkable that a hat or purse can be better remembered than your own child.
cmon, seriously.
this is inexcusable! “
People who do things on a reguler basis will do so automaticly without thinking, like taking your hat, but if you usealy dont take your kid to the baby sitter on your way to kolel it can skip your mind, so as mod 80 pointed out we need to look for solutions not judgment, it can happen to ANYBODY even yourself. (never happend to me but it could).
If anyone wants an idea for making an invention, someone ought to invent a little gadget like a gps, that sits somewhere in your car, and when it is alerted to the fact you’ve shut off the motor and are preparing to exit the vehicle, it makes a loud announcement “CHECK YOUR CAR SEAT FOR ANY CHILDREN”. as a reminder.
ARWSF – Check the post immediately before yours.
Just don’t have kids. Works like a charm.
Dssdyochid, that is hilarious! Somebody already took my idea! and so fast too!
I hardly read other people’s posts
a coupla weeks ago i was on my way home from work and i needed to stop at the grocery for a minute. well, the car i parked next to was off, windows were open a little, and there were TWO kids in the car. TWO. and this was no mistake. this was intentional. there was a sleeping baby whos face was so red and flushed and sweaty, he looked like he would dehydrate any second if he wasnt already dehydrated, and there was an older child, about 4 years old who was awake, “watching” the baby. i was so livid, i stayed outside my car for a good 15 minutes watching the kids until the father came outside from doing his shopping. i didnt have the guts to say anything to him though…too bad.
there was another case in eretz yisroel today. while this was not a parent but a bus driver who should be checking his bus after every ride, still its a wake up call for us all. lets stay focused as parents. a safe and healthy summer to all
How on earth does one leave their child in the car?
I just don’t understand it.
Imho it happens because of multitasking trying to accomplish so many things at one time what if the one thing u forget is the most important thing of all?
There are two things I would suggest. Never put the child directly behind you. Always put the car seat diagonally behind you so your peripheral vision as you turn to check the seat next to you sees the car seat. Second, put your cell phone next to the child. That is usually the first thing you grab when you leave the car or the first thing you search for when you get inside. Also get an extra wide rear view mirror so you always see the car seat and the child each time you check your mirror.
Here’s a novel idea:
Only undertake the number of responsibilites that you can safely and efficently handle. Which means, if you (or your spouse) are only capable of dealing with so much, don’t agreee to do that, plus another 3. To do otherwise, is a sure way to have something (or someone r”l) get overlooked.
V’hamavin, yovin.
put your bag in the back and then maybe you wont leave your child
I dont think you should say why this happened- just say that its because this is what the Almighty decided should happen but there are things that we can do to prevent in the future.
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