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December 17, 2010 3:48 pm at 3:48 pm #718898SacrilegeMember
PB
Your not?!
Where do I sign up 😉
December 17, 2010 4:00 pm at 4:00 pm #718899pumperMemberOMG! This is getting serious! PB, I know Sac is charming and all, but you must be really smitten to agree to go out without necessitating a picture. Good for you!
December 17, 2010 5:48 pm at 5:48 pm #718900Peanut ButterMemberSac
lol Idk! Ask the Mods?
Pumper
Hi!
December 17, 2010 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm #718901SacrilegeMemberpumper
My ridiculously good looks will just be the icing on the cake 😉
PB
Work your magic.
December 17, 2010 6:12 pm at 6:12 pm #718902pumperMemberPB-
Hi there!
December 17, 2010 6:58 pm at 6:58 pm #718903pumperMemberSac- Maybe this will begin a trend!
PB will become a Renaissance man! A revolutionary!
December 17, 2010 7:00 pm at 7:00 pm #718904Peanut ButterMemberSac
Ask them to give you my contact. I dont want to break a rule…
December 17, 2010 7:21 pm at 7:21 pm #718905sof davar hakol nishmaMemberalthough this is all a joke… MODS???!!! Where are you?
December 17, 2010 7:24 pm at 7:24 pm #718906YW Moderator-80Memberfasting
December 17, 2010 7:26 pm at 7:26 pm #718907popa_bar_abbaParticipantWhat is this? WIY tried for years and now PB gets a date in three days?
December 17, 2010 7:35 pm at 7:35 pm #718908Peanut ButterMemberPopa
I guess its my rediculously good looks;-)
Mods feel free to give it to sac, and you’ll get the shadchanus money. And don’t worry. The fast is almost over.
December 17, 2010 7:36 pm at 7:36 pm #718909popa_bar_abbaParticipantI just want to mourn my thread, and how there are barely any posts on the original topic in this hundred+ post thread.
But, really, this thread is a success. The tone is changed. Everyone on this thread is acknowledging the validity of caring about looks in dating.
December 17, 2010 7:38 pm at 7:38 pm #718910dunnoMemberCome on Mods! Give the info!!
December 17, 2010 7:38 pm at 7:38 pm #718911Peanut ButterMemberPopa
You have to look at the good in all situations.
December 17, 2010 7:40 pm at 7:40 pm #718912pumperMemberpopa-
interesting… because PB just “agreed” to meet Sac without seeing a pic first.
And in my humble opinion, WIY was beating around the bush for too long. PB deserves it cuz at least he is straightforward.
December 17, 2010 7:41 pm at 7:41 pm #718913YW Moderator-80Memberokay
December 17, 2010 7:42 pm at 7:42 pm #718914popa_bar_abbaParticipantpumper:
I did not mean because of that. I meant before it got totally hijacked and it was about how girls should dress for dates.
And, you are right, with WIY, they were both playing “hard to get”, and they played it too well. They were too hard to get.
December 17, 2010 7:43 pm at 7:43 pm #718915cshapiroMemberpb and sac u do realize ur gonna have to invite all ur cr friends to the wedding iyh!!!
December 17, 2010 7:44 pm at 7:44 pm #718916Peanut ButterMemberThanks Mod!
December 17, 2010 7:45 pm at 7:45 pm #718917popa_bar_abbaParticipantBig deal. Sac and PB are the same person. And WIY.
December 17, 2010 7:45 pm at 7:45 pm #718918Peanut ButterMemberLol oh no! cshapiro saw..now she is going to want her downpayment
December 17, 2010 7:45 pm at 7:45 pm #718919pumperMembercshapiro-
Wow! Ur getting ahead of yourself!
December 17, 2010 7:48 pm at 7:48 pm #718920Trying my bestMemberMazal Tov!
December 17, 2010 7:49 pm at 7:49 pm #718921Peanut ButterMemberPopa
Shoot! How did you figure it out? Were actually a few more people too…I get it…conspiracy theorist, unless you wanted to go out with Sac…lol
December 17, 2010 7:50 pm at 7:50 pm #718922cshapiroMemberpb…come on i def had a hand in it i deserve my cut..!!!!
pumper: ahead of myself???? i already bought a gown…and im shopping for matching shoes rite now!!!
December 17, 2010 7:56 pm at 7:56 pm #718923popa_bar_abbaParticipantI am getting a cut on the shadchanus. It happened on my thread.
December 17, 2010 7:57 pm at 7:57 pm #718924dunnoMemberOh wow! This is really getting fun!
December 17, 2010 8:24 pm at 8:24 pm #718925thefinalhorcruxMemberWatch them get all shy when he calls her for the first time…
December 17, 2010 8:25 pm at 8:25 pm #718926pumperMembercshapiro-
if you can’t beat em, join em. We have to start thinking about names for the kids, iy”h.
December 18, 2010 11:14 pm at 11:14 pm #718927cshapiroMemberGood point pumper, I like the way u think!!! …def gotta name the first one after me that’s for sure!!!
December 18, 2010 11:31 pm at 11:31 pm #718928Peanut ButterMemberLol oh wow! This is deff an interesting thread now. And of course, everyone is planning the kids already, but forgetting to tell Sac!
December 18, 2010 11:49 pm at 11:49 pm #718929cshapiroMemberyeah we should prob discuss color scheme for the wedding, i was thinking pumpkin orange or spongebob yellow???
December 19, 2010 1:42 am at 1:42 am #718930an ideaParticipantI’d like to change the tone of this thread back to poppa’s topic. I fully agree with your sentiment no one is going to marry a girl for her looks. Guys want to feel like they connect well with a girl as a person and also want to her to be attractive. As was mentioned this is the teva that hashem created them with.
I also agree with the concept that girls should try to present themselves in the most appeasing way possible not only for dates but also in their everyday life. I think its important for people to be concious of how they present themselves to others. You don’t have to shop at sacks to look presentable.
December 19, 2010 2:13 am at 2:13 am #718931Peanut ButterMemberAn Idea
I don’t know if you are a guy or girl, but I know some guys that had married because of looks. They became infatuated with the girl once they saw her and overlooked everything else. I’m not going to say that the girls did the same thing, but hey, they did agree to it. I also agree that girls should make sure they look good without being on a date, but the same goes for guys.
cshapiro
I was thinking it can be a beach wedding, though here it is pretty cold. But you need to ask Sac what she wants, I don’t want shalom bayis issues so soon! lol
December 19, 2010 2:53 am at 2:53 am #718932stamagoyMemberi didnt really have time to read all the long comments that ppl left but i was thinking that it goes both ways a lot of times girls r very into mundane things abt the guy such as what car does he drive?? Does he read the newspaper?? Does he have nice clothes?? i think that everyone involved in shidduchim has to start focusing on the more important things in life. Why do the important questions such as does he have good middos?? often come later than a question abt the car
December 19, 2010 2:56 am at 2:56 am #718933cshapiroMemberpb ur 100% rite theres nothing worse then going into a marriage with shalom bayis problems, so…when u say the beach, do u mean st lucia??? cause im totally game for that!!!
December 19, 2010 3:01 am at 3:01 am #718934popa_bar_abbaParticipantBecause you can always change your middos, but a car is a car.
December 19, 2010 3:05 am at 3:05 am #718935psach libi bsorasechaMemberhow come when i tried opening a cr shidduchim thread, it got taken off? i think this is so cute!!!!!
December 19, 2010 4:36 am at 4:36 am #718936Peanut ButterMembercshapiro
Well…come on. You should know by now, we gotta confirm with Sac bkz of shalom bayis;-)
December 19, 2010 4:46 am at 4:46 am #718937cshapiroMemberidk, sac seems to have gone mia…
December 19, 2010 5:04 am at 5:04 am #718938chayav inish livisumayParticipantpopa thats pretty much the dumbest thing i ever heard in my life but if ur that shallow u shud be a good shidduch for someone i know.
Goes by the name PEanut Butter
December 19, 2010 5:12 am at 5:12 am #718939dunnoMemberYea Sac, where are you? This is your wedding being discussed…
December 19, 2010 5:12 am at 5:12 am #718940Peanut ButterMemberyea I think she got scared off…
December 19, 2010 5:25 am at 5:25 am #718941pumperMemberI hope Sac didn’t get scared off by all this wedding talk. Maybe she’s getting cold feet!
December 19, 2010 5:46 am at 5:46 am #718942dunnoMemberchayavinishlivisumay:
Chill, it was a joke.
December 19, 2010 5:55 am at 5:55 am #718943mamashtakahMemberYes, most guys can tell you if they found her attractive or not. But details…forget about it.
It’s funny, I used to stay with my aunt and uncle in NY when I went in for dates, and they always teased me because I came back afterwards and never knew details, like the color of the girl’s eyes. The one time I paid attention, and was able to tell them – that girl eventually became my wife!
December 19, 2010 6:01 am at 6:01 am #718944Peanut ButterMemberchayav……
Sorry. I am straight.
December 19, 2010 6:30 am at 6:30 am #718945cshapiroMemberi bet shes just doing her makeup….i heard pb asked her out tonight….!!
December 19, 2010 6:31 am at 6:31 am #718946dunnoMembercshapiro, pumper:
We’re gonna help Sac through this together, k?
December 19, 2010 6:38 am at 6:38 am #718947cshapiroMemberIf you’re suggesting we spy on their first real date….I’ll have to check my schedule…:))
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