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December 15, 2010 9:00 pm at 9:00 pm #718846Peanut ButterMember
Sac
Wow, that would make it even more awkward lol
ouch! “just another sanchez pb-aholic!!!!”
December 15, 2010 9:10 pm at 9:10 pm #718847cshapiroMemberpopa…i cant stop laughing at all ur posts…im gonna get fired because my boss knows there is nothing funny about accounting!!!
im not sure if ur posing a serious dilemma or just mocking the system?
December 15, 2010 9:12 pm at 9:12 pm #718848YW Moderator-80Memberplease dont encourage him
December 15, 2010 9:15 pm at 9:15 pm #718849popa_bar_abbaParticipantWell, the tzedaka post didn’t go up. Maybe mod 80 will put it up for us.
December 15, 2010 9:17 pm at 9:17 pm #718850tobgMemberIf boys really cared about looks they would go out with every girl instead of judging her by a motionless picture.
The problem is that once a boy sees a picture of an average girl he will most likely say she is not my type and wont give her a chance. Even though everyone can agree that pictures are not very accurate representation of looks. And yes sometimes a picture might even look better than the person looks on daily basis but sometimes worse either way its not a fair way to judge looks.
December 15, 2010 9:25 pm at 9:25 pm #718851SacrilegeMembercshapiro and popa (if hes single)!!!
December 15, 2010 9:28 pm at 9:28 pm #718852Trying my bestMember“And of course it in not tznius. It is dating, the whole thing is not tznius.”
popa: Are you kidding?? There is no way she can dress “not tznius” on a date.
December 15, 2010 9:34 pm at 9:34 pm #718853popa_bar_abbaParticipantTznius is a standard which changes based on the circumstances.
Of course she should not break halacha, or wear anything she usually would not wear in public.
But she should dress how she would if she were going on a date with her husband, at least.
I think, more like how she would for a friend’s wedding.
December 15, 2010 9:40 pm at 9:40 pm #718854cshapiroMemberwow sac im insulted….that u dont think i could do better….lol
December 15, 2010 9:55 pm at 9:55 pm #718855whatrutalkingabtMemberPopa-
“I still disagree. I think she should dress as nicely as she would dress if going out with her husband.”
I agree with that. I meant she maybe should not dress like she would if she was staying inside with her husband…
dont worry- once your married your wife will make you feel plenty attracted…
December 15, 2010 9:58 pm at 9:58 pm #718856popa_bar_abbaParticipantim gonna get fired because my boss knows there is nothing funny about accounting!!!
There often is something very funny about accounting. And you usually get paid more for it.
December 15, 2010 10:10 pm at 10:10 pm #718857Peanut ButterMembercshapiro
Whats wrong with popa? He is;
1 Jewish
2 A man
3 Alive
What more can you ask for?
(Though I cant verify any of the things I just said)
December 15, 2010 10:55 pm at 10:55 pm #718858cshapiroMemberCome on pb….by now u shud know what im looking for…
December 15, 2010 11:05 pm at 11:05 pm #718859Peanut ButterMembercshapiro
So youll go out with eli manning intead of popa
December 15, 2010 11:49 pm at 11:49 pm #718860SacrilegeMembercshapiro
How do you know he isnt a football player?
December 16, 2010 1:51 am at 1:51 am #718861pascha bchochmaParticipantcharliehall: Yes, but there was a homiletical point there.
December 16, 2010 2:48 am at 2:48 am #718862Peanut ButterMembercshapiro
And even if he is the water boy or cheerleader, he still gets to *gasp* breathe the same air that they do!
December 16, 2010 3:05 am at 3:05 am #718863cshapiroMemberpb…i would but polygamy is not legal in this country
sac, i guess id need a pic then….not taking any chances this time!!! :))
December 16, 2010 3:28 am at 3:28 am #718864SacrilegeMemberpopa
Send a pic to cshapiro.
December 16, 2010 3:51 am at 3:51 am #718865Peanut ButterMembercshapiro
lol Well then your up a creek. I guess your going to have to settle for Popa. I mean its either popa or WIY…
December 16, 2010 4:19 am at 4:19 am #718866popa_bar_abbaParticipantMy ignoring these comments is my way of continuing to not give away my marital status or any other personal information.
I’m only posting this post for the benefit of those who didn’t read that other thread.
December 16, 2010 4:22 am at 4:22 am #718867oomisParticipantGirls should always dress nicely.
Boys should always dress nicely.
Both genders should always present themselves in a neat, hygienic, and attractive way. To do otherwise is to say, “Hashem, I do not give two cents for the face or body You gave me. People can take me or leave me.”
There is nothing wrong with wanting to look nice or wanting to be with someone who appeals to you. I would repeat that line, but I am too lazy to type it again.You knwo what – I will, anyway. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look nice or wanting to be with someone who appeals to you.
December 16, 2010 4:23 am at 4:23 am #718868Peanut ButterMemberFor some reason I was always under the impression that popa was 45 yr old guy…
December 16, 2010 4:26 am at 4:26 am #718869so rightMemberpopa, you’re single. Don’t kid us, you gave that away long ago. Here are some of the lesser proofs from your threads:
Sure nothing is conclusive, but one needn’t be a rocket scientist to figure this out!
December 16, 2010 5:15 am at 5:15 am #718870cshapiroMemberlol pb i dont settle….my 3 must haves are out there…just waiting around for mr perfect to come knocking on my door :)))
December 16, 2010 5:47 am at 5:47 am #718872ronrsrMemberas my dear grandmother once wisely said to me, “It is better to be attractive, healthy and rich than ugly, poor and sick.”
Though it is almost 35 years since she told me this, it still rings true today.
December 16, 2010 1:15 pm at 1:15 pm #718873Peanut ButterMembercshapiro
money, looks, and yichus?
December 16, 2010 1:44 pm at 1:44 pm #718874tzippiMemberThe problem I have with the initial premise is NOT that girls shouldn’t put their best feet forward – I think most if not all women feel good when they maximize their assets – but that girls (and women) are being held to some arbitrary artificial standard of beauty.
There are women who are (some of you may need to sit down for this) ten pounds overweight who are beautiful.
Some women may favor one look over an another.
Some women can’t wear heels. Get over it.
I could keep going.
Last week’s Hamodia magazine had a great story: a young woman goes to the shadchan after having sent her a photo for the file. She was pretty pumped about the photo, having made some effort for it. So she finds the shadchan in tears – tears! – because she didn’t have anyone pretty enough for the best catch (sic) she had. And poor, poor guy. What was the shadchan doing wrong? Did she need to get a better quality meat in her stable? Yes, that was the story (though that last sentence was mine, but it was clearly said in not so many words).
So this is where we’re coming from.
FWIW, I’ve been married for a while. No sour grapes. One case of a child who wasn’t anorexic enough for someone.
December 16, 2010 2:35 pm at 2:35 pm #718875cshapiroMemberactually pb rich, gorgeous football player….so yes u got it!!!
December 16, 2010 2:46 pm at 2:46 pm #718876popa_bar_abbaParticipantpopa, you’re single. Don’t kid us, you gave that away long ago. Here are some of the lesser proofs from your threads:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/why-im-going-to-let-my-kids-run-around-in-shul
The first thread, I merely complained about girls attitudes. I didn’t tie it to myself. One of my friends was starting law school after 7 years post high school full time learning.
Besides, I may have gotten married in the past 8 months.
The second thread says that I didn’t have kids old enough to run around in shul. I see no reason to bring them at all before they are 8 or 9.
December 16, 2010 2:51 pm at 2:51 pm #718877Peanut ButterMembercshapiro
So who are you gonna date then?
December 16, 2010 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm #718878cshapiroMemberTom brady of course….my friend txted him my number and I know a couple of rabbis who will do an orthodox conversion for the rite amount of $$$
December 16, 2010 7:28 pm at 7:28 pm #718879Peanut ButterMembercshapiro,
Sac just told me that he is married…you snooze you lose! But hey, Popa is still available! Even WIY!;-)
December 16, 2010 9:10 pm at 9:10 pm #718880cshapiroMemberPb, wiy is reserved for sac and popa….to be quite honest idk if anyones good enuf for him…
December 16, 2010 9:34 pm at 9:34 pm #718881SacrilegeMembercshapiro
“and popa….to be quite honest idk if anyones good enuf for him…”
Previous post:
“wow sac im insulted….that u dont think i could do better”
Now, stop beating around the bush… I’ll even pick up the restaurant tab 😉
December 16, 2010 9:56 pm at 9:56 pm #718882Peanut ButterMemberCshapiro
I thought popa is a guy….
Ok I got it. Well make a yeshiva world shidduch. Sac will pay for the restaurant bill, just go out with him. If you do, I will go out with Sac.
December 16, 2010 10:02 pm at 10:02 pm #718883SJSinNYCMemberPopa, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting an attractive wife. Nor is there something wrong with a woman wanting an attractive husband.
There is something wrong when its the primary importance to the person. I know a man who is now in his 40s. A decent looking guy with a decent job. Interesting, fairly funny…a good catch. BUT. When you asked him what he was looking for, his list was preposterous. He wanted someone tall, thin, but athletic thin but not too muscular, preferably a natural blond woman with light eyes….his list went on and on. He never even got to the part about what she should be like.
That’s wrong.
December 16, 2010 11:48 pm at 11:48 pm #718884Peanut ButterMemberSac
Just to warn you…They probably will pick the most expensive place, so you may have to hold off on buying those shoes!
December 16, 2010 11:48 pm at 11:48 pm #718885Peanut ButterMemberSac
Just to warn you…They probably will pick the most expensive place, so you may have to hold off on buying those shoes!
December 17, 2010 12:08 am at 12:08 am #718886cshapiroMemberi knew it…pb is crushing on sac….but no thanks im not making deals with u…i mean how much would u pay me to go out with him??? enough for that down payment ???? lol
December 17, 2010 12:10 am at 12:10 am #718887popa_bar_abbaParticipantSJS:
That guy is a lunatic, and it explains why he is single at 40. Most guys I know are not like that at all.
So, while some guys are a bit loony, the majority I think have a pretty good balance.
December 17, 2010 3:21 am at 3:21 am #718888Peanut ButterMembercshapiro
Darn! You caught on;) But i dont know if Sac is “good enough” for me;)She never said yes….
December 17, 2010 3:51 am at 3:51 am #718889cshapiroMemberoh dont worry pb shes just playing hard to get….i think u should def make a move!!! go for it!!!
December 17, 2010 3:56 am at 3:56 am #718890SacrilegeMemberPB
WOW, w no picture…
December 17, 2010 4:26 am at 4:26 am #718892dunnoMemberSac:
Go to your local grocery store…
December 17, 2010 12:59 pm at 12:59 pm #718893Peanut ButterMemberDunno
But then she will see that I am the janitor there, and will say no. lol jk I’m on the shelf.
December 17, 2010 2:17 pm at 2:17 pm #718894SacrilegeMemberdunno
I meant PB is so willing w/o seeing a picture of me…
December 17, 2010 3:16 pm at 3:16 pm #718895dunnoMemberSac:
Then be happy he’s being one of “those guys” and go out 🙂
Come on guys, we need a CR shidduch!
December 17, 2010 3:25 pm at 3:25 pm #718896Peanut ButterMemberSac
Im not “one of those guys” that need it.
December 17, 2010 3:26 pm at 3:26 pm #718897Peanut ButterMemberBut if you want, ask the Mod to send it.
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