Changing The Tone On Looks In Dating

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  • #718846

    Sac

    Wow, that would make it even more awkward lol

    ouch! “just another sanchez pb-aholic!!!!”

    #718847
    cshapiro
    Member

    popa…i cant stop laughing at all ur posts…im gonna get fired because my boss knows there is nothing funny about accounting!!!

    im not sure if ur posing a serious dilemma or just mocking the system?

    #718848

    please dont encourage him

    #718849
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Well, the tzedaka post didn’t go up. Maybe mod 80 will put it up for us.

    #718850
    tobg
    Member

    If boys really cared about looks they would go out with every girl instead of judging her by a motionless picture.

    The problem is that once a boy sees a picture of an average girl he will most likely say she is not my type and wont give her a chance. Even though everyone can agree that pictures are not very accurate representation of looks. And yes sometimes a picture might even look better than the person looks on daily basis but sometimes worse either way its not a fair way to judge looks.

    #718851
    Sacrilege
    Member

    cshapiro and popa (if hes single)!!!

    #718852

    “And of course it in not tznius. It is dating, the whole thing is not tznius.”

    popa: Are you kidding?? There is no way she can dress “not tznius” on a date.

    #718853
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Tznius is a standard which changes based on the circumstances.

    Of course she should not break halacha, or wear anything she usually would not wear in public.

    But she should dress how she would if she were going on a date with her husband, at least.

    I think, more like how she would for a friend’s wedding.

    #718854
    cshapiro
    Member

    wow sac im insulted….that u dont think i could do better….lol

    #718855

    Popa-

    “I still disagree. I think she should dress as nicely as she would dress if going out with her husband.”

    I agree with that. I meant she maybe should not dress like she would if she was staying inside with her husband…

    dont worry- once your married your wife will make you feel plenty attracted…

    #718856
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    im gonna get fired because my boss knows there is nothing funny about accounting!!!

    There often is something very funny about accounting. And you usually get paid more for it.

    #718857

    cshapiro

    Whats wrong with popa? He is;

    1 Jewish

    2 A man

    3 Alive

    What more can you ask for?

    (Though I cant verify any of the things I just said)

    #718858
    cshapiro
    Member

    Come on pb….by now u shud know what im looking for…

    #718859

    cshapiro

    So youll go out with eli manning intead of popa

    #718860
    Sacrilege
    Member

    cshapiro

    How do you know he isnt a football player?

    #718861
    pascha bchochma
    Participant

    charliehall: Yes, but there was a homiletical point there.

    #718862

    cshapiro

    And even if he is the water boy or cheerleader, he still gets to *gasp* breathe the same air that they do!

    #718863
    cshapiro
    Member

    pb…i would but polygamy is not legal in this country

    sac, i guess id need a pic then….not taking any chances this time!!! :))

    #718864
    Sacrilege
    Member

    popa

    Send a pic to cshapiro.

    #718865

    cshapiro

    lol Well then your up a creek. I guess your going to have to settle for Popa. I mean its either popa or WIY…

    #718866
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    My ignoring these comments is my way of continuing to not give away my marital status or any other personal information.

    I’m only posting this post for the benefit of those who didn’t read that other thread.

    #718867
    oomis
    Participant

    Girls should always dress nicely.

    Boys should always dress nicely.

    Both genders should always present themselves in a neat, hygienic, and attractive way. To do otherwise is to say, “Hashem, I do not give two cents for the face or body You gave me. People can take me or leave me.”

    There is nothing wrong with wanting to look nice or wanting to be with someone who appeals to you. I would repeat that line, but I am too lazy to type it again.You knwo what – I will, anyway. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look nice or wanting to be with someone who appeals to you.

    #718868

    For some reason I was always under the impression that popa was 45 yr old guy…

    #718869
    so right
    Member

    popa, you’re single. Don’t kid us, you gave that away long ago. Here are some of the lesser proofs from your threads:

    Shidduchim�Girls are Shallow

    Why I'm going to let my kids run around in shul

    Sure nothing is conclusive, but one needn’t be a rocket scientist to figure this out!

    #718870
    cshapiro
    Member

    lol pb i dont settle….my 3 must haves are out there…just waiting around for mr perfect to come knocking on my door :)))

    #718872
    ronrsr
    Member

    as my dear grandmother once wisely said to me, “It is better to be attractive, healthy and rich than ugly, poor and sick.”

    Though it is almost 35 years since she told me this, it still rings true today.

    #718873

    cshapiro

    money, looks, and yichus?

    #718874
    tzippi
    Member

    The problem I have with the initial premise is NOT that girls shouldn’t put their best feet forward – I think most if not all women feel good when they maximize their assets – but that girls (and women) are being held to some arbitrary artificial standard of beauty.

    There are women who are (some of you may need to sit down for this) ten pounds overweight who are beautiful.

    Some women may favor one look over an another.

    Some women can’t wear heels. Get over it.

    I could keep going.

    Last week’s Hamodia magazine had a great story: a young woman goes to the shadchan after having sent her a photo for the file. She was pretty pumped about the photo, having made some effort for it. So she finds the shadchan in tears – tears! – because she didn’t have anyone pretty enough for the best catch (sic) she had. And poor, poor guy. What was the shadchan doing wrong? Did she need to get a better quality meat in her stable? Yes, that was the story (though that last sentence was mine, but it was clearly said in not so many words).

    So this is where we’re coming from.

    FWIW, I’ve been married for a while. No sour grapes. One case of a child who wasn’t anorexic enough for someone.

    #718875
    cshapiro
    Member

    actually pb rich, gorgeous football player….so yes u got it!!!

    #718876
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    popa, you’re single. Don’t kid us, you gave that away long ago. Here are some of the lesser proofs from your threads:

    Shidduchim�Girls are Shallow

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/why-im-going-to-let-my-kids-run-around-in-shul

    The first thread, I merely complained about girls attitudes. I didn’t tie it to myself. One of my friends was starting law school after 7 years post high school full time learning.

    Besides, I may have gotten married in the past 8 months.

    The second thread says that I didn’t have kids old enough to run around in shul. I see no reason to bring them at all before they are 8 or 9.

    #718877

    cshapiro

    So who are you gonna date then?

    #718878
    cshapiro
    Member

    Tom brady of course….my friend txted him my number and I know a couple of rabbis who will do an orthodox conversion for the rite amount of $$$

    #718879

    cshapiro,

    Sac just told me that he is married…you snooze you lose! But hey, Popa is still available! Even WIY!;-)

    #718880
    cshapiro
    Member

    Pb, wiy is reserved for sac and popa….to be quite honest idk if anyones good enuf for him…

    #718881
    Sacrilege
    Member

    cshapiro

    “and popa….to be quite honest idk if anyones good enuf for him…”

    Previous post:

    “wow sac im insulted….that u dont think i could do better”

    Now, stop beating around the bush… I’ll even pick up the restaurant tab 😉

    #718882

    Cshapiro

    I thought popa is a guy….

    Ok I got it. Well make a yeshiva world shidduch. Sac will pay for the restaurant bill, just go out with him. If you do, I will go out with Sac.

    #718883
    SJSinNYC
    Member

    Popa, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting an attractive wife. Nor is there something wrong with a woman wanting an attractive husband.

    There is something wrong when its the primary importance to the person. I know a man who is now in his 40s. A decent looking guy with a decent job. Interesting, fairly funny…a good catch. BUT. When you asked him what he was looking for, his list was preposterous. He wanted someone tall, thin, but athletic thin but not too muscular, preferably a natural blond woman with light eyes….his list went on and on. He never even got to the part about what she should be like.

    That’s wrong.

    #718884

    Sac

    Just to warn you…They probably will pick the most expensive place, so you may have to hold off on buying those shoes!

    #718885

    Sac

    Just to warn you…They probably will pick the most expensive place, so you may have to hold off on buying those shoes!

    #718886
    cshapiro
    Member

    i knew it…pb is crushing on sac….but no thanks im not making deals with u…i mean how much would u pay me to go out with him??? enough for that down payment ???? lol

    #718887
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    SJS:

    That guy is a lunatic, and it explains why he is single at 40. Most guys I know are not like that at all.

    So, while some guys are a bit loony, the majority I think have a pretty good balance.

    #718888

    cshapiro

    Darn! You caught on;) But i dont know if Sac is “good enough” for me;)She never said yes….

    #718889
    cshapiro
    Member

    oh dont worry pb shes just playing hard to get….i think u should def make a move!!! go for it!!!

    #718890
    Sacrilege
    Member

    PB

    WOW, w no picture…

    #718892
    dunno
    Member

    Sac:

    Go to your local grocery store…

    #718893

    Dunno

    But then she will see that I am the janitor there, and will say no. lol jk I’m on the shelf.

    #718894
    Sacrilege
    Member

    dunno

    I meant PB is so willing w/o seeing a picture of me…

    #718895
    dunno
    Member

    Sac:

    Then be happy he’s being one of “those guys” and go out 🙂

    Come on guys, we need a CR shidduch!

    #718896

    Sac

    Im not “one of those guys” that need it.

    #718897

    But if you want, ask the Mod to send it.

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