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Can bad habits be changed after one is married?
Not without the willingness on the part of the spouse that something is wrong, which most shlubs can’t even dream of.
when you have a supportive spouse (spoken from experience)
Can bad habits be changed after one is married?
I think once nuns are married, they aren’t nuns anymore, and are allowed to totally dump their bad or good habits.
popa: “I think once nuns are married, they aren’t nuns anymore, and are allowed to totally dump their bad or good habits. “
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OP: are these own habits or that of a spouse?
own bad habits can always be changed, though it needs hard work.
as for trying to change a spouse – it’s a touchy topic.
Yes. One is obligated to; therefore, it can be done. It takes effort, but it also takes effort to deal with incompatibility due to bad habits. One way or the other the wise choice to deal with is the work on changing bad habits. Also, changing bad habits is not such a bad thing, either.
I fail to see what marriage has to do with changing a habit.
I don’t think it makes it simpler or more difficult. It’s just up to the person’s strong will to change.
One can change his/her bad habits anytime in their life. A supportive spouse is a bonus, and if s/he isn’t supportive, one can still change.
Why not? What does marrige have to do with changing habits? Do you think one remains the same person from age 25 until 120?
try Zelig Pliskin books. Very good for changing habits.
one can change his own habits, one cannot change the habits of his spouse
From the question, it would seem like the OP is not married.
Everyone and anyone can choose to change anything about themselves if they are sincere and honest about the commitment to make the change. But you can only change yourself you can’t change anyone else.
There’s an old saying:
“You can change your habits, and you can change your wife. But you can’t change your wife’s habits.”
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depends on what you mean by bad habits. Rabbi Abraham Twerski says that “marriage is not a hospital”. He is refering to emotional problems, addictions, etc.
You should change your bad habits b4 u get married.Im not talking about stupid little things…like serious bad habits..when you have a wife with you things are harder to change while u r trying to build a steady stable relationship.Im not married but i can imagine.
Marriage my not be a “hospital”, but they call it it “commitment”- as in, you have to be committed to do it!
One of my late father in law’s favorite sayings was ” a woman searches for a long time to find the perfect man and then spends the rest of her life trying to change him.” Unfortunately, his own son was unchangeable.
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