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December 19, 2019 4:53 pm at 4:53 pm #1812429MilhouseParticipant
I see that Joseph asked a question a while back that I did not see before.
It seems to me that me’ikar hadin the consequences to the person don’t matter; what matters is that your intention is not to harm him but only to stop him harming you. That doing so will result in harm to him is his problem; he should have thought of that before he decided to harm you. Of course, in practice ahavas yisroel, ve’osiso hayoshor vehatov, and also Pareto optimality and simple mentchlichkeit (all four of these may amount the same thing) mean that you should balance the harms involved, and not subject someone else to a great harm merely in order to prevent a small harm to yourself; instead you should suffer the small harm and then try to collect it from the offender. If necessary by telling him that if he doesn’t pay then next time you will call the police. But if you do decide to just call the police I don’t think that makes you a mosser.
This also goes to answer your second question, about what I mean by a reasonable effort. Again, I threw that in not because I saw it in the Shulchon Oruch but because sevoro hi. It’s not right to subject someone to harm without first trying to resolve the situation. But you can’t be expected to take heroic measures just to save another person from harm. If a reasonable effort won’t do it then you’re entitled to save yourself at his expense, since he’s the aggressor. So what is a reasonable effort depends on the circumstances and your available resources, which include time and patience. It has to be reasonable to you.
December 20, 2019 9:13 am at 9:13 am #1812537Ex-CTLawyerParticipantCalling 311 on someone blocking your driveway is not mesira, it’s useless when you don’t live in a city that has 311 service………………..
December 20, 2019 12:26 pm at 12:26 pm #1812556GadolhadorahParticipantFifty posts later on one has established any inyan of mesirah if you encounter an illegally parked car blocking your access to your driveway/garage and blocking you from going/coming. Also, in the majority of cases, you will have no idea if the owner is a yid, thereby removing any question of mesirah. If you do think you recognize the owner as a yid, give him/her a call with a request to move the car asap or else you will be calling a tow company. End of story. We have no obligation under halacha to show respect for someone who is literally and intentionally robbing us of our time and rights to use our own property. If there was an emergency situation, the car’s owner would have left a note explaining the situation and either left the key or left a cellphone number where they could be reached.
December 20, 2019 12:26 pm at 12:26 pm #1812557GadolhadorahParticipantI also have seen on many occasions where a shul or Simcha hall has signs on the front door WARNING their daveners/guests that cars illegally parked on nearby streets or blocking driveways will be TOWED, so anyone doing so has accepted the risk of his/her car being removed.
March 10, 2021 2:47 pm at 2:47 pm #1955995ujmParticipantIf it is an illegal driveway then anyone has the right to park in front of it at anytime and block it.
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