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Did you hear he’s getting divorced!?…She had a miscarriege!…They had to break the engagement!But they were so happy!…A house full of kids with no father to support them? Thats Terrible!….!!!
Did you ever wish you felt bad for people? People have such tradegies and I want to feel bad for people.It’s so sad when families are hit with tradgidies.BUT the problem is I am so wrapped up in my own “tradgedies” I can’t even feel bad for ppl!! I just heard some1 is getting divorced I used to be such a sensitive person I would cry for other ppl left and right but now I dont feel bad anymore! Now i cant even if I try! What would you do? I want to show my sympathy for someone elses problems like I used to.
When you do something on the outside it makes you feel that way….so perhaps try to do an act, even if it’s saying out loud something, or saying tehillim, or writing a letter where applicable, or blessing them in words or something! It’s not nec. an easy thing to do,good luck!
Exactly as The Eagle said. In your mind you surely are sympathetic. If you bring out your sympathy with actions of sympathy, you will be sandwiching your emotions between two sincere attitudes. Eventually, your emotion will join the choir.
There is no point in working yourself up just for the sake of being upset. But, if you feel that you are being too indifferent to someone else’s plight spend some time pondering what the person feels and which different parts of their life are affected by what happened and in what way.
Realize though, that it is normal that as your life gets busier you concentrate less on other people. However, as your own family grows you learn to care for others. This is why the Halacha is that we try for the Shliach Tzibur on Yomim Nora’im to be someone with children.
Sorry for not being clear. Thanks for explaining HaLeivi.
Basically, i’m talking about the point that when you do something on the outside it makes you feel that way on the inside. It works with everything, for example, if you want to become a calm person, than a way to achieve that is by PRETENDING to be calm on the outside, and than it will soon come on the inside too. Soon the person will be a calm(er) person for REAL.
It’s the same thing here. By actually doing an act you make it become part of you. Look above for the ideas of some acts. Good luck!
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