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bpt i did this for u
I think this thread is self explanatory without any comments posted.
(but feel free to share your thoughts… its a free country…)
lol! i was waiting for someone to do this!!!!!! ha ha!
this thread is not going anywhere!
“I think this thread is self explanatory”
Hmm.. well this IS the YWN CR, and we do have several female members who will no doubt be checking to see what we write, so lets be civil.
Really, men are not that complex, and as a result can have 99% of their needs met in a few short steps:
Is her health something she values?
Is her appearance something she attends to?
Is her and your yiddishkeit / middos on the same page?
Is her appetite a healthy one?
Is her self confidence intact?
Say yes to all the above, and you have found a person that is going to make a terrific spouse. All the other things (money, moviestar looks, what sem she did / did not go to) are all details, and not the basis of who she will be 20, 30, 40, 50 years from now.
Oh, and one more thing. Moochie Goochie nail polish is a real plus (but no points deducted if all she wears is pink or french tips)
Well done BPT.
Is her health something she values?
Is her appearance something she attends to?
Is her appetite a healthy one?
Is her self confidence intact?
All one question. Is she thin/slim/unfat/pick your PC word?
Is her and your yiddishkeit / middos on the same page?
Ok, a good second question.
Thin? No, that could mean an eating disorder.
Health is a state of mind and well being, not a number.
Health is a state of mind and well being, not a number.
Neither is wealth. Yet both of them are well suited to being measured in numbers.
Do boys think it is weird for a girl to ask for a boy with no unhealthy habits?
Do boys think it is weird for a girl to ask for a boy with no unhealthy habits?
No, why do you think they would. Guys understand if you don’t want a smoker, or whatever.
Lets break this down.
“Is her health something she values?”
AKA men want their woman to WORK OUT.
“Is her appearance something she attends to?”
Whilst most men SAY they dont want someone ‘high maintenance’ they sure do want someone that looks like a million bucks…. all the time.
“Is her and your yiddishkeit / middos on the same page?”
I actually find it ironic that this is only #3 on the list, usually, there is a list and then the OBVIOUS inference that she wants everything you do AKA support you until your dying day.
“Is her appetite a healthy one?”
Nary will you find a girl in Shidduchim, especially in a day and age where if you are a pound over a size 2 you are flicked to the way side, with a healthy appetite.
“Is her self confidence intact?”
Agreed. Confidence looks good on everyone.
A pound or 2 over.. looks like a million bucks…
Sorry, Sac. I was giving the view thru middle age eyes, and one that has seen the downside to “marrying for money / looks”
Not to say us middle-agers are content walking around in a bathrobe, picking high-calorie food out of dumpsters. We still like nice things, and like to look presentable. Its just that we value real, tangible, inner-self things more.
Our job now is to set a good example so that hopefully we can get some sanity back in the relationship process
And I thought boys aren’t supposed to ‘thoughts on girls..’
PBA: Just wondering.
“Our job now is to set a good example so that hopefully we can get some sanity back in the relationship process”
That being the case, maybe yiddishkeit/middos should have been before looks?
wat thoughts?!?! we are allowed to have thoughts?!? – sry i have this teacher who says that we shouldnt think about boys or how they look or anything!!!! all that counts is their middos- and while thats true you still have to have some sort of attraction-
sry- i thought it said girls thoughts on boys! sry!
” yiddishkeit/middos should have been before looks? “
You got me there. I guess I’m more superficial than I realize. Thanks for pointing it out.
(goodness, nothing gets past you, does it? No wonder you switched to law)
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