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Anyone have any good ideas?
Thanks!
What are his likes, hobbies? age bracket?
I dont understand the goyisha custom of buying present for birthdays. by the goyisha they celebrate their birthday because they are not happy (because all they strive for is money), so its another year down the tubes.
Lehavdil, by us, we are scared of the yoim hamisa, loy uleinu, so we shouldn celebrate rather we should worry that another year has passe.d have we really improved ourselves.
How about a table shtender, or something of the sort? And you’d be surprised, that if there a is a nice new sefer out there, he may appreciate it. But a good supper takes the cake! (I’m sure you do it nightly, but extra special)
tro11: I know of several gedolim who would get an aliya on the day closes to their birthday.
Now that we’re here, we celebrate the opportunity to do mitzvos and to “earn our bread”. The birthday present symbolizes that we’re here earning our bread (reward in the real world).
concert tickets
by the goyisha they celebrate their birthday because they are not happy (because all they strive for is money), so its another year down the tubes.
Wow. How appropriate the username…
The Wolf
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Good for one full day.
Let me join the cause.
a nice cd
Does he have Bimchitzosom? Great set of books! Otherwise, consider cufflinks (if he likes them).
Depends what type he is. Some like to be bought n some want the thought…
If hes a “Label” kinda guy..just get anything with an exclusive name u wouldnt normally spend on.. ( a shirt/belt)
U can do something inexpensive but very personal n sweet.. (When I was in Kallah class my Kallah teacher actually gave us ideas.. lol.) U can do a box of all the reasons why u love him.. aaaaw. Every time he does something- takes out the trash, tells u a joke, offers his handyness.. u write it down n then present to him a box fulla appreciation.
Or wrap up any dumb thing in a huge box with over the top wrapping paper n bows n ribbons n tonsa tissue paper..Trust me he will be as excited as a lil boy..
obviously- cook awesome food/bake.. I for sum reason dont think a 25 yr old guy wouldnt enjoy blowing out his own candles on a home-made “Happy Birtday Chaim Yankel” cake..
I second the call for “Bimchitzosom”. Its from R. Shlomo Laurence, who was a chaver kneset, yet had very very close relationships with the brisker Rov, the Chazon Ish, Rav Schach and many other gedolim. Here, he “tells the stories”. In reality its a fun musser sefer.
They now have it in English as well, but the Hebrew may possibly go better for your husband
im coming up on my one yr anniversary and i just bought my husband a beautiful megillah with commentaries in it and had his name imprinted on it. i also want to get him the hagaddah thats also part of the same edition. does he have a nice megillah or hagaddah?
my hsuband’s bday is next month and hell also be 25 I gotta figure out the same thing. but im also making him a suprise party so maybe ill be patur!
One year I couldnt think of a present so I made a candlelight dinner with all fancy china and I wrote a romantic poem for my husband. Another year I made a picnic with all the trimmings and we sat on blankets in our living room. My husband doesnt go for presents that are religious like megillahs or things like that he would rather have the fancy dinners and a card.
‘tro11: I know of several gedolim who would get an aliya on the day closes to their birthday.’
That’s because they viewed birthdays the way I do. They did it to get the zchusim. Similar to the way people get an aliya for somebody’s yartzheit.
‘tro11
I buy my husband a birthday present to show my appreciation for him. Besides, no one asked you ‘
You should show your appreciation by being devoted to him, not by giving nonsensical presents. It flies in the face of everything we stand for.
why not ask him what he would like? nothing worse than getting an unwanted present.
walmart.com has photo tshirts for $8 and 97 cent shipping….
nothing worse than getting an unwanted present
I could think of worse things 🙂
I’d buy a nice seder set, with a pillow, afikomen pocket etc. (it’s pretty expensive though. Do you want to spend a lot?)
You should show your appreciation by being devoted to him, not by giving nonsensical presents. It flies in the face of everything we stand for.
Cite, please.
The Wolf
observanteen: are u in 12th grade?
tro11 shelita:
I know of several gedolim who would get an aliya on the day closes to their birthday.’
That’s because they viewed birthdays the way I do. They did it to get the zchusim. Similar to the way people get an aliya for somebody’s yartzheit.
You never answered my other point, why a present is indeed very appropriate.
Now that we’re here, we celebrate the opportunity to do mitzvos and to “earn our bread”. The birthday present symbolizes that we’re here earning our bread (reward in the real world).
princess: Why? wraaa. Hope u don’t know me!:(
Does he wear French cuffs? If he does, then maybe get him a nice set of cuff links. The key is to give as a gift something people don;t buy for themselves. Something nice that you’ll know he uses.
my husband picked out a gift for himself while we were shopping a few weeks ago- massage pillow for office chair. Im gonna go back and get it for his bithday in a few months.
I got my husbang a table shtender, it was a great present! If your husband learns lot, its a very useful gift. I dont think its too big to take back once u leave EY. Here are some ideas: a siddur with his name on it, an expensive pen, a brand name watch, a new challah cover or challah board, a leather chair.
At this point my husband would enjoy going out to eat to an expensive restaurant for dinner. That we will save for our anniversary which is coming up soon IY”H!!
Get him an attache case. For some reason, all ladies get that for their husband and they think their husbands appreciate it. My neighbor has 31 attache cases in his closet. He plans on making a sale of them next week when his wife goes on vacation.
whatrutalkingabt “Anyways, a devoted wife remembers her husbands birthday and takes advantage of the opportunity to show him how special he is.”
It’s just that it cheapens your relationship to be trying to buy his love and affection with gifts. Tell him how special he is and treat him well and that is the best birthday gift.
whatrutalkingabt: “One more thing, forgive me for being ignorant but what exactly do we stand for that presents dont fit in?”
I’m not trying to judge you – but we stand for ruchniyus not gashmiyus.
Does he have two tallesim? If not, perhaps get him one for Shabbos.
It’s just that it cheapens your relationship to be trying to buy his love and affection with gifts.
Why do assume that the purpose of a gift is to “buy” someone’s love?
I cooked lunch for Eeees yesterday. Was I (in your opinion) doing it merely to “buy her love?”
The Wolf
tro11 = mosherose?
getting an aliyah to the Torah for your birthday is a gedolim thing?! hmmm… maybe it’s just a Chassidishe thing? cuz my husband & sons always (try to) get aliyahs for their birthdays. or maybe a Lubavitch thing, cuz we have shiychus…
“Why do assume that the purpose of a gift is to “buy” someone’s love?
I cooked lunch for Eeees yesterday. Was I (in your opinion) doing it merely to “buy her love?”
The Wolf “
It’s okay to cook lunch for your wife (although I wouldn’t recommend it) – that is a nice gesture. But you weren’t going around on CR asking everybody what to do for your wife like youre desperate to get her something ( seeming to “buy” her love).
whatrutalkingabt: I dont think so because mosherose’s spelling was awful. Either way, I’m not bothering with this guy anymore. I see its going nowhere.”
I’m awfully sorry if the truth hurts. Next time maybe you should think about what you are doing before publicly embarrassing yourself by asking the entire world what you can buy for your husband’s birthday. I’m actually not completely against it if it’s done in a private manner. Not to go on the airways to publicize your apparent less than optimal relationship.
Whatru- if I were you I would ignore some of the ridiculous posts here. Some people are just impossible.
Not even worth a response at all.
troll: You are disgustng and wrong. Who knows her identity? Rav Gifters son-in-law rabbi Reisman (not from the nach shiur) told the world that Rav Gifter went to the flower shop, himself, on erev Yom Kippur after minchah, to buy his wife flowers for her birthday.
You, my friend, are too babyish to accept someone not buying your garabage. She is a isha ksheira, haoseh retzon baaloh. EDITED
Right. He wanted to appease her before Yom Kippur so she would be moichel him beleiv shalem. See, that’s exactly my point.
And as an aside, I may be wrong but I resent and take offense to being called disgusting – as I am simply engaging my right of voicing my opinion. It shouldn’t be used as a springboard for a character attack against me.
She would be haoisah retzoin baalah only if he asked her to get him something.
(although I wouldn’t recommend it)
Why wouldn’t you recommend that I cook lunch for my wife? Especially in light of the fact that you immediately said afterward that it was a nice gesture.
The Wolf
Here’s a really weird idea…
Why not ASK him what he would like?
You might buy him a sefer, but not the one he wanted.
You might buy him a CD, but he was hoping for a different one.
etc., etc., etc., etc.
ASK him. Then, instead of guessing, you will KNOW what he wants.
Just a wild and crazy thought.
Give him a day off.
If he enjoys wine- you can get him an expensive bottle of good wine which you otherwise wouldn’t spend on a weekly basis.
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