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December 17, 2010 6:38 pm at 6:38 pm #593567notedaskanMember
Is it right to build a big fancy house in a neighborhood where everyone is simple people?
December 17, 2010 7:02 pm at 7:02 pm #718651mikehall12382Memberit looks silly, huge mansions next to modest homes….
December 17, 2010 7:06 pm at 7:06 pm #718652dunnoMemberYou’ll probably feel pretty stupid but I don’t think it’s a matter of right and wrong.
December 17, 2010 7:16 pm at 7:16 pm #718653popa_bar_abbaParticipantYes. It is fine.
December 17, 2010 7:54 pm at 7:54 pm #718654bezalelParticipantWhy would you want to live in a neighborhood that has different values than yours?
December 17, 2010 8:12 pm at 8:12 pm #718655popa_bar_abbaParticipantThe contrary. Usually, they want to live in that neighborhood because they have the same values.
December 17, 2010 9:07 pm at 9:07 pm #718656notedaskanMemberThere is a neighborhood near me where the average house is about 3500 square ft. and they are simple houses and someone is putting up a 7000 square foot home.
December 18, 2010 5:54 pm at 5:54 pm #718657blueprintsParticipantHow likely are you to make a decision based on what anyone here says???
December 19, 2010 1:08 am at 1:08 am #718658aries2756ParticipantDo they have a an extra large family? Are they building a larger home because they plan to have room for the grandkids I”H, or because they host zedaka parties or host gedolim and therefor NEED more room? Are they making room for parents? Or for out-of-town family?
Are you going on the premise that they THINK they are better than the rest of you or are they smart in this economy that they can get more for their money right now, so why not think ahead? Just because it is large and spacious does that automatically mean that it is also fancy and ostentatious?
December 19, 2010 2:17 am at 2:17 am #718659apushatayidParticipantWhy do you care how big the house is?
December 19, 2010 3:44 am at 3:44 am #718661Midwest2ParticipantIs it a matter of “big” or a matter of “fancy.” Someone with ten kids may want a big house. That’s different from having gold-plated water faucets (yep, seen those) or designer brick work or two-ton chandeliers – that’s “fancy.”
The real issue is life-style. Are they going to put pressure on their less affluent neighbors to compete with them?
December 19, 2010 3:46 am at 3:46 am #718662tzippiMemberWhy is this any skin off of your nose?
December 19, 2010 4:25 am at 4:25 am #718663bezalelParticipantWhy is this any skin off of your nose?
Because he doesn’t want an eyesore.
December 19, 2010 4:28 am at 4:28 am #718664popa_bar_abbaParticipantBecause he doesn’t want an eyesore.
I don’t believe that. I think he is jealous.
December 19, 2010 7:00 am at 7:00 am #718665wanderingchanaParticipant3500 sf is not an average house!
December 19, 2010 9:01 am at 9:01 am #718666PosterMemberI know someone who bought a new house. They saved up and got a really good deal on a big, fixed up house from someone who needed instant cash. Imagine this – she said she is embarrassed to move cuz pple will talk – “why do they need such a big house”
“are they trying to pop our eyes out” etc.
No, pple don’t want you to be jealous of them. They do what works for them and what they feel is comfortable for them. By your talking and analyzing, YOU, with your small house, create the pressure.
December 19, 2010 1:33 pm at 1:33 pm #718667real-briskerMembernotedasken – “and somoene is putting up a 7000 square foot home” What do you care what somone else is doing?
December 19, 2010 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm #718668artchillParticipantMake sure to stock up on lots of Roiteh Bendlach, you’ll need it.
It apparently shtuchs the eyes of the neighbors who are living a more pashut life. PLUS, as a result of your big, facy house, THEIR TAXES GO UP TOO. So they see your monstrosity, get no benefit from you coming into their area, and have to pay for your lifestyle too, That’s a LOT to ask for.
December 19, 2010 7:13 pm at 7:13 pm #718669pabpabMemberLiving in a big house is awesome. Who cares if the guy next to you can’t afford it?
December 19, 2010 8:10 pm at 8:10 pm #718670ronrsrMemberno emotion will depress you quite as fast as envy.
December 19, 2010 8:10 pm at 8:10 pm #718671notedaskanMemberI said 3500 sf is the average in that neighborhood and the taxes will increase.
December 19, 2010 8:35 pm at 8:35 pm #718672Midwest2ParticipantHadn’t thought of the tax angle (don’t own a house). So yes, that’a a reason to be concerned. Check with your local tax authorities to see if there’s any way you can prevent it affecting your own tax rate. I sometimes do statistics, and adding one very large value into a group can drag the average really really high – not so good for the “typical” homeowners.
December 19, 2010 9:27 pm at 9:27 pm #718673ronrsrMemberover the last 40 years in America, the average new house has been getting larger. Our expectations change and we are unwilling to live as compactly as our grandparents did.
How many people lived in your grandparents’ home? How many live in your home (adjust for square footage). Did your grandparents have a game room? a home office? a room for the pets?
The good news is that the trend seems to have peaked, and we are seeing fewer of these McMansions than in the past decade.
December 19, 2010 10:35 pm at 10:35 pm #718674nfgo3MemberTorah tells us not to covet, and so those of us “simple people” who object to our neighbor’s having a bigger house should remind ourselves of that. Torah also tells us to be modest, but if Hashem has blessed us with many children and the means to house them comfortably, and we are discreet in our design, there is no Torahic reason not to build a big house anywhere.
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