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May 25, 2011 11:47 am at 11:47 am #771903☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
The OP is telling you that he/she does have a need for a response.
I was referring to a response that would enhance the dialogue. what you’re referring to is an emotional need. If that emotional need is for the poster to be acknowledged, than I suppose every poster should keep a record of who posts and make sure to respond, at least occasionally, to each fellow poster.
What it originally sounded like was that the OP felt that her (?) posts were not being read, or not deemed worthy of consideration. What I was pointing out was that a poster whose post is not responded to should not feel that it was ignored, or that other, non-responsive posters didn’t find the post valuable.
May 25, 2011 2:14 pm at 2:14 pm #771904nottellingMemberThanks BSD. I was thinking of sticking with this new name. But i might use the old one sometimes. Although it can get a bit confusing, cuz I have to remember with which one to sign on each time or i might accidentally use the wrong one and blow my cover. YIKES! wouldn’t want that to happen 😉
May 25, 2011 2:17 pm at 2:17 pm #771905oomisParticipantI don’t think anyone ignores anyone here. It may be that the point you might make does not require a comment, because it was so well-made, it stands on its own. I don’t know. I read most psots, but don’t respond to all of them.
May 25, 2011 3:47 pm at 3:47 pm #771906nottellingMemberI don’t remember who it was, but someone suggested a “like” button. That would be helpful. This way, you don’t actually have to comment but it lets ppl know how you feel.
Mods – what do you think?
*LIKE*
May 25, 2011 3:54 pm at 3:54 pm #771907always hereParticipantI agree 100% with a ‘like’ button!!
May 25, 2011 4:03 pm at 4:03 pm #771908A Heimishe MomParticipantIn my experience, as kid I preffered ignored. I hung out with kids who I knew were not my pears and would ultimately ignore me, rather than be snubbed by my peers. These days I don’t have much time to “hang out” and am most friendly with a)my direct neighbors and b)no strings attached friends who feel comfortbale enough to call me or I call them on an as-needed basis with no “maintenance” needed.
May 25, 2011 4:16 pm at 4:16 pm #771909ZeesKiteParticipant*LIKE*
*LIKE*
May 25, 2011 4:23 pm at 4:23 pm #771910Be HappyParticipantNottelling – I heard a shuir from Paysach Krohn. He said:
“A person will only hurt your feelings if you let them.”
I am super sensitive (I feel for you) and try to remember this all the time. It helps to get difficulties into perspective.
Don’t let comments hurt you, and try to give person the benefit of the doubt. Maybe not feeling well? up at night etc. Hatzlocho
May 25, 2011 4:49 pm at 4:49 pm #771911oomisParticipantLIKE
May 26, 2011 12:22 am at 12:22 am #771912nottellingMemberBe Happy – I like that quote. Thanks!
May 26, 2011 10:14 pm at 10:14 pm #771913goldenkintMemberi have- uncharacteristically for me, been on cr a lot this past week. and i do realize now that not getting responded to makes you wonder if anyone has read, or registered what you wrote. sometimes you feel like you are just shouting into nothing. i think a like button, or an agree, or disagree button would help people feel connected. if you write and care enough to give advice or share something it would be nice to know that someone heard it. by the way , i’m generally extremely unsensitive , and suffer from an excess of self-esteem rather than the opposite.
May 26, 2011 11:41 pm at 11:41 pm #771914oomisParticipantNot all people read ALL comments. Sometimes thereare just too many, bli ayin hara.
May 27, 2011 12:07 am at 12:07 am #771915kapustaParticipantkapusta: I don’t know if you know me. I don’t always post but no, I didn’t take a break from the cr.
Oh, well. It was fun almost figuring you out.
🙂
May 27, 2011 3:37 am at 3:37 am #771916nottellingMembergoldenkint: glad to see you understand where i was coming from. i think now ppl do understand the point. nobody means to ignore anyone. making ppl feel badly is a different story. but ya just can’t change some ppl
kapusta: glad you had fun. but i’m still a mystery cuz i’m nottelling 😉
May 27, 2011 3:59 am at 3:59 am #771917am yisrael chaiParticipantcouldja give us a hint
May 27, 2011 5:37 pm at 5:37 pm #771918nottellingMemberayc – um….let’s see…..NOPE!! 🙂
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