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So I was at a wedding and I met the Chosson for the first time in a while. The problem is I never know what to tell someone who’s celebrating a Simcha. I always just say Mazal Tov and then a moment of awkward silence follows till he moves on to the next guest. What are all those smooth and cool quotes and Brochos people always say to a Bal Simcha or to anyone else in general? B’sha Tova Umitzlachas? How does it go?
Just step on his shoes as you go in for the kiss.
I have the same problem. In a 15 second window- its pretty hard to come up with something to say that wont sound awkward..
I just flash a huge genuine smile that conveys everything, and it does the trick. Its not like they have anything to say back either..
I have the same type of problem when meeting a baal simcha. I try to think of what to say beforehand.
that is the reason why i hate dancing with the kallah in the middle of the whole circle. You have to say something but dont have anything to say….i dont think the baal simcha realizes the awkard moment though because they are just so happy for themseld…
I usually tell the Kallah, “Oh, wow, you look so beautiful!” and of course the music is so loud that she can’t hear so I try saying (yelling, really) it another couple of times, and by then somebody pushes in and takes over the dance, so I’m free to leave!
it’s cute how we all seem to feel the same way when dancing with the kallah!
what if the kallah is not dressed tzinuisdik, can u still say she’s beautiful when it’s awkward?
brotherofurs: that would be like telling someone who is eating pork that the food looks delicious.
I am so relieved that I am not the only one who hates dancing in the middle circle with the kallah! I totally dread it!
I am not a good dancer, and I never have anything to say…
good to know I am not the only one…
so nice to hear i am not the only one who feels that way
allow the awkwardness to fall on the other person, let them deal with it
I agree with chayav.
i believe in telling people when situations are akward. for example if i was talking to a friend on the phone and the convo wasnt really happening i wud say ” k we both obviously have nothing to say so we might as well hang up and not waste each others time” same thing goes for dancing with the kallah….go in, say mazel tov, tell her you didnt prepare anything to say to her when you would dance with her and then youll both laugh and it will be over…..
lol stuffed thats a good line to say actually
try it-works every time!!
lol, stuffedcabbage, that’s my MO as well. most chassanim and kallah’s don’t remember what they talked about in 3 hours worth of 15 second increments with random people.
As for the “tell the kallah she’s beautiful”, that won’t work for the OP.
what do you say as a kallah to the ppl that are dancing with you??
Um: Thank you for coming, I’m so glad you’re here…
tell them “im yirtza Hashem by you”
Mazel Tov !! thank you so much 4 coming!! And lk StuffedCabbage say if the person is single I”YH by you…….
nobody likes being told I”YH by u..
Baal Simcha – I am sooooooooo happy you came (look happy)- it’s so much fun to share a simcha with a great friend – They say i have a power of giving brochos as a baal simcha, so I wish you with all my heart sheyimalei Hashem es kol mishalosaych l’tovah – you should only have brochos, yeshuos, parnassas b’harchava and kol tuv bharchava……..
Guest – Oh you look so gorgeous (wonderful, amazing, lechtig,…) I can’t believe that i am dancing at your wedding, I am so happy i feel like it’s my wedding (my sister’s, my daughter’s ) You can just feel the atmosphere -everybody is just so thrilled with this wonderful shidduch, and loves you, and wishes you the best (kiss, hug……….)
What’s to be uncomfortable – just cherish the moment!!!!!!!! Nobody can even see you or hear you- it’s such a mob scene.
just continue smiling, say “may you be zoche to build a bayis neeman…” if new child say may you be zoche to raise him/her letorah, lechupa ulm”t… whatever just smile and show them you happy for them that’s all they care about.
about the kallah not dressed tznius, if your a girl saying to the kallah, matters on your relationship with her. look for something else like your hair/shaitel…makeup maybe just don’t comment on the gown itself
“nobody likes being told I”YH by u..”
Wrong – I do. I need as many brochos as I can get.
Health…iy”h by you,and b’korov.
E – I would return the Brochah, but I’m not sure if you’re from the group that wants this brochah or not.
Health: This is the most recent advice I got on the subject:
You may not feel ready yet,but be careful not to BLOCK any brochos Hashem may want to give you.Like,instead of saying “no thank you” right away,listen….
Doesn’t take away one drop of warranted fear–it’s just a wise mehalech suggested by a wise person.
E – You’re too complicated for me, but here goes -I’yh by you B’korov!
I shared that for the benefit of others like me,simply since that “outlook” adds no undue pressure at all.It’s just a mindset.
My dream is to be cleared of all the negative…but only Hashem can solve that one.
B’korov?!
And what’s so complicated about that suggestion?
E:
Iy”H by you B’korov, to be cleared.., to have such an outlook/mindset and then to be! A lot of dreams actually come to realization.
Thank You.
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