The little I know (who obviously knows a lot):
I found what you wrote about the yeshivos fascinating. I only work with girls, and have never really thought about the school system as an issue itself, since most are either out of school or graduated. 🙂 However, I think the same is true in many in-town BYs. (by tweens, I meant late teens to twenties, and realized later it refers to preteens.)
I can’t respond to your points about yeshivos because as a girl, I just don’t know enough about the topic. I agree that we need to care about every child’s welfare. But it was really interesting to read that about mussar, and amkus, and thank you for posting that.
big deal: It’s a big deal, you’re allowed to feel strongly about it. 🙂