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i was recently having a discussion with some people about redding shidduchim for people. it turns out, that many people have good ideas but are afraid to actually DO something about it. the first person i was talking to was a guy who said something along these lines….”what if im totally off the mark? the guys gonna think im nuts!” to which i responded, “the guy will feel greatfull that you thought of him. he could do his homework once he gets the name, but everyone appreciates being remembered about!” a few days later i was talking to a girl about the same thing and she told me “i ALWAYS think of shidduchim, but once i think of them i never know what to do!”
if you have an idea, ACT upon it! there is no better feeling in the world then to know that two people are living happily together, bringing up the next generation of klal yisrael! (take it from an experianced person. i recently made my first shidduch and im 20… :)lots more to come, hopefully!)
wow ilthl! what a zchus to be such a shaliach of Hashem!!!!!!! that’s amazing!!!!!!!!! i recently tried to redd a few shidduchim, too. i must admit, it takes tons of strength to call someone with an idea, and of course you may be way off the mark! but tell your friends (or whoever you were talking to) that some of the biggest shadchanim can also be way off the mark! tell them to remember that shidduchim come from Hashem, not the shadchanim. if Hashem doesn’t want a shidduch to go thru that a shadchan redd, then He will make that not work out, too, sometimes making something way off the mark!
but think of it this way: if it would work, wouldn’t that feel so amazing and rewarding? you were the shaliach in helping this couple to build a bayis ne’eman! that is such a big zechus! biggest thing to remember: (not to take anything away from the amazing work of shadchanim) shadchanim are people too! they had to start somewhere, just like you! and they are not always right either!
now, as far as not knowing what to do once you have an idea, either see if you know someone who knows both sides, and if they would feel comfortable redding it, or call a shadchan and tell him/her of your idea. or tell a parent/teacher whom you are close to. hatzlacha in this amazing avoda!!!!!!!!
its not so scary. i redt a shidduch- they went out 3 times. its tough and takes courage but its such a good feeling. i would want someone to do it for me.
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