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By Har Sinai, all Jews stood there as one. With no delineation between rich or poor, strong or weak, happy or sad, etc. There was a sense of complete U-N-I-T-Y. No one felt greater or more powerful than the other.
Very often only once a person experiences the loss of a strong friendship, do they realize what they had in the relationship.
I’m all ears, how do we achieve it?
I can only speak from my own experience, but for me fixing a relationship works best when I admit that I said/did things that weren’t proper.
An older co-worker attacked my character the other week, and, boy, did it hurt! I should’ve kept my mouth CLOSED, but I said something that MAYBE I shouldn’t have (out of frustration because she accused me without having half the details). Realizing, though, that she was simply projecting her own issues on me, I decided to be a big girl and apologize for the lack of Derech Eretz I showed her by answering back.
Do you think she also apologized? Some all-growed-up people are still children, but they don’t have their mommies next to them to tell them, “Say ‘I’m sorry.'”
P.S. She told me that when she speaks harshly to someone, it’s strictly ‘business’ and I shouldn’t take it personally.
Hereorthere: You asked, “How do we achieve this?”
I want to answer from my own experiences: by acting big (i.e. mature) and thinking about the OTHER PERSON’S pain (insecurities).
I heard a beautiful speech inwhich the speaker said there are two types of unity. One that comes when something harsh happens and people come together. And one that happens because they really feel connected like at har Sinai.
With the first one, while it might work to bring people together like when there is a tradegy and they feel for each other. Sometimes, it’s a situation like everyone is stuck in elevator and they have to get along. This last example is just for the each individuals sake.
But at Har Sinai, that was true unity because they truely felt connected to each other.
The way to achieve this is to work on looking PAST the SURFACE and FOCUS on each other’s SPECIAL NESHAMA.
Now of course, people sometimes need constructive criticism, and we should give someone that if they need it. That is also a form of love. But if they are following halacha and do it differently than you, you might not agree, but don’t Disrespect them.
We have to be careful Not just with gossip stories but also Hurtful words towards someone
The speaker I heard said that achdus is very important because it’s one of the things that we need to acquire Torah, like in the Purim story when they united and re-accepted the Torah
Klal Yisroel is in bad shape today.
SInas chinam galore
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