$10,000 shidduch offer

Home Forums Shidduchim $10,000 shidduch offer

Viewing 28 posts - 1 through 28 (of 28 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • #615437
    The Frumguy
    Participant

    Would you say that parents of a good Bais Yaakov girl offering a Shadchan $10,000 for a zivug is:

    1) Average

    2) Above average

    3) Well above average

    4) Extravagant

    Also, any comments?

    #1072954
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    3

    #1072955
    yaakov doe
    Participant

    Asking about the girl or the parents?

    #1072956
    bentzion
    Participant

    I would say SMART PARENTS!!!

    #1072957
    golfer
    Participant

    !

    #1072958
    147
    Participant

    Go on a Jewish Dating Site, and give $9,982 to feed the needy over Pesach. Note:- I subtracted $18 to cover your registration fee onto the Jewish dating site.

    #1072959
    apushatayid
    Participant

    offering, or paying shadvhan fee.

    #1072960
    The Frumguy
    Participant

    147: Aren’t Shadchanim supposedly more effective than Jewish dating sites?

    apushatayid: Offering to pay. I’m not sure what you mean.

    #1072961

    For that price, you can donate $10,000 to the needy for Pesach and register on craigslist. You may not find your soul mate you were looking for to build a bayis neeman beyisrael, but you’ll probably have fun. Or you can deal with a real person that actually knows what both sides are aiming for in life. The fact that their goals match on paper means nothing. All five people to describe yeshivish, and you’ll get five different descriptions. A search engine just doesn’t cut it.

    #1072962
    charliehall
    Participant

    Regarding 147’s comment: My wife and I met on JWed (back when it was still Frumster). We are still happily married ten years later. It was a lot less expensive than $10,000.

    #1072963
    BarryLS1
    Participant

    Paying Shadchonis gelt is customary and all fine and good, but the amount gives the impression that there is something wrong with the girl.

    #1072964
    barlev
    Participant

    4

    #1072965
    ironpenguin
    Member

    Really? It depends if the family is in one of two mindsets

    A) This shadchan and only this shadchan will bring their shidduch (aka Avodah Zara)

    B) This is part of their hishtadlus to show Hashem they are trying their best. (Pretty extravagant but understandable, shidduchim is a hard parsha)

    Also, what does 10,000 dollars get you? A meeting? A promise to “keep you in mind”? A guaranteed marriage? At least 10 yes’s from guys? A date that will at least get to 5 dates?

    What are you paying for?

    #1072966
    BoysWork
    Participant

    You left out choice ‘E’ – insane

    I agree with the guy who said Jwed or even singles weekends/functions.

    I met my wife more than 30 years ago on a july 4th weekend at one of the hotels in the mountains. Many many more couples met that way.

    #1072967
    TheGoq
    Participant

    Barry maybe they want an 8 cow son in law, if you are not aware google 8 cow wife.

    #1072968
    Joseph
    Participant

    It isn’t any worse to pay $10,000 for a shadchan than to pay $10,000 for a wedding ceremony.

    #1072969
    The Frumguy
    Participant

    Offering that amount if the shidduch goes through to chupah.

    #1072970
    flatbushbum
    Member

    I think you should offer more, due to the shidduch crisis.

    #1072972
    BarryLS1
    Participant

    The Gog: Exactly the point. If the girl was worth the 8 cow s-i-l they wouldn’t need the offer. If she is not and someone takes the offer, how good a marriage will it be if they are on vastly different levels?

    #1072973
    balancehumanbalance
    Participant

    It says more about our society that about the quality of the individual “offered.”

    Makes me sad.

    #1072974
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    Individual being offered? Money is being offered.

    #1072975
    balancehumanbalance
    Participant

    Oh, DY… You can look at it both ways. Why a critical eye?

    #1072976
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    What do you mean?

    #1072978
    apushatayid
    Participant

    “apushatayid: Offering to pay. I’m not sure what you mean.”

    Meaning. Are they bribing the shadchan with $10,000 to find a shidduch, or are you asking for opinions on a $10,000 shadchan fee.

    #1072979
    The Frumguy
    Participant

    apushatayid: Is there a difference between a “bribe” or a “Shadchan fee?” In either case, the shadchan keeps 10K if it leads to a chupah.

    #1072980
    ora
    Member

    Lets hope it wont be making up for something

    #1072981
    apushatayid
    Participant

    You don’t see the difference between a fee and a bribe?

    #1072982
    Getzel
    Participant

    A shadchan works for each match that’s made, 80% don’t work out. So u are paying him for much more than the 1 Shidduch.

Viewing 28 posts - 1 through 28 (of 28 total)
  • You must be logged in to reply to this topic.