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April 6, 2015 8:03 pm at 8:03 pm #615437The FrumguyParticipant
Would you say that parents of a good Bais Yaakov girl offering a Shadchan $10,000 for a zivug is:
1) Average
2) Above average
3) Well above average
4) Extravagant
Also, any comments?
April 6, 2015 10:10 pm at 10:10 pm #1072954☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant3
April 6, 2015 10:14 pm at 10:14 pm #1072955yaakov doeParticipantAsking about the girl or the parents?
April 6, 2015 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #1072956bentzionParticipantI would say SMART PARENTS!!!
April 7, 2015 12:02 am at 12:02 am #1072957golferParticipant!
April 7, 2015 12:32 am at 12:32 am #1072958147ParticipantGo on a Jewish Dating Site, and give $9,982 to feed the needy over Pesach. Note:- I subtracted $18 to cover your registration fee onto the Jewish dating site.
April 7, 2015 2:13 am at 2:13 am #1072959apushatayidParticipantoffering, or paying shadvhan fee.
April 7, 2015 2:27 am at 2:27 am #1072960The FrumguyParticipant147: Aren’t Shadchanim supposedly more effective than Jewish dating sites?
apushatayid: Offering to pay. I’m not sure what you mean.
April 7, 2015 2:32 am at 2:32 am #1072961Yayin Yashan B’Kli ChadashParticipantFor that price, you can donate $10,000 to the needy for Pesach and register on craigslist. You may not find your soul mate you were looking for to build a bayis neeman beyisrael, but you’ll probably have fun. Or you can deal with a real person that actually knows what both sides are aiming for in life. The fact that their goals match on paper means nothing. All five people to describe yeshivish, and you’ll get five different descriptions. A search engine just doesn’t cut it.
April 7, 2015 2:42 am at 2:42 am #1072962charliehallParticipantRegarding 147’s comment: My wife and I met on JWed (back when it was still Frumster). We are still happily married ten years later. It was a lot less expensive than $10,000.
April 7, 2015 9:34 am at 9:34 am #1072963BarryLS1ParticipantPaying Shadchonis gelt is customary and all fine and good, but the amount gives the impression that there is something wrong with the girl.
April 7, 2015 12:20 pm at 12:20 pm #1072964barlevParticipant4
April 7, 2015 12:29 pm at 12:29 pm #1072965ironpenguinMemberReally? It depends if the family is in one of two mindsets
A) This shadchan and only this shadchan will bring their shidduch (aka Avodah Zara)
B) This is part of their hishtadlus to show Hashem they are trying their best. (Pretty extravagant but understandable, shidduchim is a hard parsha)
Also, what does 10,000 dollars get you? A meeting? A promise to “keep you in mind”? A guaranteed marriage? At least 10 yes’s from guys? A date that will at least get to 5 dates?
What are you paying for?
April 7, 2015 12:46 pm at 12:46 pm #1072966BoysWorkParticipantYou left out choice ‘E’ – insane
I agree with the guy who said Jwed or even singles weekends/functions.
I met my wife more than 30 years ago on a july 4th weekend at one of the hotels in the mountains. Many many more couples met that way.
April 7, 2015 1:09 pm at 1:09 pm #1072967TheGoqParticipantBarry maybe they want an 8 cow son in law, if you are not aware google 8 cow wife.
April 7, 2015 1:23 pm at 1:23 pm #1072968JosephParticipantIt isn’t any worse to pay $10,000 for a shadchan than to pay $10,000 for a wedding ceremony.
April 7, 2015 2:57 pm at 2:57 pm #1072969The FrumguyParticipantOffering that amount if the shidduch goes through to chupah.
April 7, 2015 4:27 pm at 4:27 pm #1072970flatbushbumMemberI think you should offer more, due to the shidduch crisis.
April 8, 2015 8:55 am at 8:55 am #1072972BarryLS1ParticipantThe Gog: Exactly the point. If the girl was worth the 8 cow s-i-l they wouldn’t need the offer. If she is not and someone takes the offer, how good a marriage will it be if they are on vastly different levels?
April 8, 2015 4:29 pm at 4:29 pm #1072973balancehumanbalanceParticipantIt says more about our society that about the quality of the individual “offered.”
Makes me sad.
April 8, 2015 5:11 pm at 5:11 pm #1072974☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIndividual being offered? Money is being offered.
April 8, 2015 7:40 pm at 7:40 pm #1072975balancehumanbalanceParticipantOh, DY… You can look at it both ways. Why a critical eye?
April 8, 2015 9:57 pm at 9:57 pm #1072976☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantWhat do you mean?
April 9, 2015 4:20 pm at 4:20 pm #1072978apushatayidParticipant“apushatayid: Offering to pay. I’m not sure what you mean.”
Meaning. Are they bribing the shadchan with $10,000 to find a shidduch, or are you asking for opinions on a $10,000 shadchan fee.
April 9, 2015 4:50 pm at 4:50 pm #1072979The FrumguyParticipantapushatayid: Is there a difference between a “bribe” or a “Shadchan fee?” In either case, the shadchan keeps 10K if it leads to a chupah.
April 20, 2015 9:59 pm at 9:59 pm #1072980oraMemberLets hope it wont be making up for something
April 20, 2015 10:42 pm at 10:42 pm #1072981apushatayidParticipantYou don’t see the difference between a fee and a bribe?
April 21, 2015 3:57 am at 3:57 am #1072982GetzelParticipantA shadchan works for each match that’s made, 80% don’t work out. So u are paying him for much more than the 1 Shidduch.
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