BSD, I believe it is something that happens through life as you experience different things and you see different things. When you are young and you “think” that this or that is the most important things in life. And then things happen and Hashem truly shows you who is in charge, and you realize that those things were so superficial. These things happen through simchas and through loss. Or as we age and we see tragedy in the world and we also see miracles. The more life we experience we just see “yad Hashem” more and more. The more I work doing “chesed” and helping people, the more I see how Hashem directs me and puts people in my path. The more you experience Hashem’s presence and Hashem’s nissim or his ma’asim you develop a sense of Hashem being with you all the time. If that is the case then you know that you are always standing before Hashem. And when you do, it is also hard to understand how others don’t. Do you understand what I am saying?
I also believe that women are more in tune than men because of all our private mitzvos. We all understand that there is always temptations. Who doesn’t want an nice cold delicious Ice cream on a hot summer night? But Just as you are about to take it out of the freezer you remember you had fleishigs for supper. Who will know, no one is around, no one sees, no one is watching or are they? What is keeping you from eating the ice cream before the six hours. Well we stand before the King. We know Hashem is watching, we either pass the test or fail. Women have our private mitzvos for taharas mishpacha. Who knows, who watches, no one but the woman. But that is not true because Hashem knows. If we don’t believe that, then the whole premise of taharas mishpacha is really and truly on shaky ground. Because if women were not sensitive to the fact that we stand before the King always, and we KNOW who we stand before, there would be a lot of cheaters.