Feif Un and others want to comment that mixed seating could lead the shidduchim, so we should encourage mixed seating of singles. My comment is that in times like today, people are on such different levels of yidddishkeit and have many different other worldly values, so it is foolish to think that a shidduch can be made based on the appearances of girls and boys at a chassanah (all dolled up and acting on their best behavior) without investigation of the people and families involved to see if they are suitable one for the other. Each side get emotionally involved (if not physically) in a situation that could be completely not the right thing for them and it would, in all probability, end in disaster with the only question being when? The idea is frightening to me, as a mother of a 16 yo girl. I know she’s not in the parsha yet, but I would surely want to make sure that the boy she goes out with is someone whose background and goals as well as his personality would be compatible with hers. Why should she be left to figure this out by herself? Meeting someone “off the street” leaves the person having to figure out too many issues, something which can be minimized by proper investigation before the two would even meet. How do you know who is being invited to the wedding?
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