BS”D
It is clear as a bell to me that she means this only for herself; she knows what is ahead for her and wants this for herself, not for boys who are clearly not interested in what she wants.
The fact that she would begin with comparing the shidduch crisis to golus hashechina makes it clear who she is and where she is coming from.
Keep in mind that she is not a professional writer and I do see that she may be inadvertently conveying a tone in some places that does not match the rest of her letter.