Reply To: Starting out marriage with a solid foundation

I think the challenge is to find someone who will support your spiritual and religious goals. For me, it is extremely important to listen to 1-2 shiurim a day and learn every night. Whomever I marry will have to honor the fact that after work, I will need to devote 2 hours a night to G-d and sit and learn (gemara/halakha, parsha, iyun tefillah, etc.) Marriage is supposed to have an uplifting spiritual effect, not a detrimental effect on one’s avodat hashem, so I’d say that is something to be vigilant about.