I had the impression that aurora77 is in her late 30s, because she is an established attorney (if I recall correctly). Should she wait to seek her soulmate? possibly, but let a reputable Rabbi say so, no one of us is qualified to give this advice which potentially may be regretted for a lifetime.
Also, there are issues beyond the observance, because her status is not completely clear, if I understood correctly, and correct me if I am wrong.
Aurora77 maybe we look nosey with all those questions about your private life, please forgive us, we are trying to help.