Aries- When I meet people who jump to conclusions, I view them as VERY narrowminded and not too bright.
If they can’t understand that we each have our own Derech in Avodas Hashem, and we each try to do our best, then they are missing some sensitivity and Sechel.
If you would realize that, then you would see them as fools and you wouldn’t be so sensitive to their comments.
(Of course that incident on that Erev Shabbos was extreme and I would also stick up for myself since an entire site was shaming and blaming you falsely. But some individuals here really shouldn’t move you.)