“You cant [sic] walk into oncoming traffic and pray that you wont get hit.”
Sure you can. And just because you shouldn’t have walked into traffic doesn’t mean that Hashem won’t answer your prayer. Can you “guarantee” that anyone who walks into oncoming traffic will get hit? There are a lot of foolish and naive people out there who do it, and guess what? Many of them have near-misses. Maybe, from our perspective, they deserved to get hit, but Hashem saw fit to save them for whatever reason.
“Hashem isn’t the tooth fairy. Theres [sic] rules to prayer and when its [sic] just not going to work.”
Rules? Really? What are the rules? We have a chiyuv to daven, and there are halachos regarding what, when, and how to daven. Nowhere, however, is it stated that there is a formula or system or rules of any kind regarding when prayer will “work”. Furthermore, the distinction between prayer that “works” and prayer that “doesn’t work” is essentially meaningless. All tefillah is worthwhile; all tefillah is precious to Hashem; all tefillah helps you grow. There’s a famous saying that I’m sure you’ve come across at some point: “Hashem answers every prayer, but sometimes His answer is no.” And sometimes, in order to give you what you need in the long term, Hashem directs your life in the short term in a way that you don’t perceive as positive. So you might think that Hashem doesn’t love you or has abandoned you, but in truth, you just can’t see that He is giving you something infinitely better than what you requested.
“Do you honestly think that after what happened to her Hashem wants here [sic] here? If the answer is no or any shade of no then praying will be useless.”
First of all, I can’t possibly presume to know what Hashem wants from her. Second of all, there is no such thing as a “useless” prayer. See above.
One final thought:
We are commanded to believe in God. It is a positive mitzvah incumbent on all of us. Anyone who has issues with emunah severe enough that viewing a moderated website is a faith-shaking experience clearly needs to be working on their emunah anyway. Better to go through that (relatively mild) experience and to recognize that you need to work on this area than to coast through life until something more serious hits you and you realize you have no answers for the kofrim, and begin to wonder why not. Three hours with a rabbi is not a bad thing at all. I honestly believe that while our communities and institutions are scrupulous about mitzvahs that require you to “do something” or refrain from “doing something”, they do not even begin to stress the importance of mitzvahs relating to thought, belief, and emotion, e.g. believe in God, love God, fear God, love your neighbor, do not covet, do not hate your neighbor in your heart, etc.