I spent Rosh Hashana at a very modern YI shul where women did not dress in keeping with this site’s ideal of tznius by a long shot and they said a mi shebeirach for chayalei Tzahal (with names added of the children of congregants in the army).
I spent Yom Kippur at an extremely yeshivish shul where I felt like the most modern person there and Neturei Karta pamphlets have been known to have been seeded.
Both davenings were beautiful.
As someone mentioned above, it was just the yamim noraim, people. Chillax. Why do we need to take sides, anyway? I personally don’t- it’s confusing and limiting (I have friends at both shuls mentioned above).