Reply To: Internet Abuse

Thanks to all who responded.

Each individual is different, and their environment is different, so there isn’t one size fits all answer. So even though some of your answers differ, it could apply to some people.

For those females who responded, sure, yes, it’s doable. I know there is a long standing disagreement in the CR with whether girls and boys differ in this area, but I believe very strongly that it does. So those girls who said sure, it’s doable, it may not apply to a boy.

For those who think I was talking about myself, let me just say, I am way over 20 years ago, and I’m female, so no, I was not in any way talking about myself (if you’ll notice in the OP I said a 20 year old boy)

I also do not have any control over this boy. My question was really, if this boy has a desire to change, is it doable? Or will he struggle for the rest of his life?

As for those who think it’s just a regular aveira, let me compare this to eating chazer. Eating chazer ruins the neshama, and everything is downhill. I believe so does the internet. Being mechalel Shabbos does not have the same affect.

So to say, one can be productive in life even if one does this aveira, I don’t believe he/she will have the same productivity. It greatly affects other areas in life.