It’s funny, because for years I’ve always said I don’t want to go, I’m not going, there’s no point… I guess cuz I wasn’t interested in another year of sitting behind a desk, another year of teachers, more changes I would have to adjust to etc. My friends thought I was nuts (similar to writersoul’s experience) But once I got in to 12th grade I was like, I am so not ready to leave! My parents were ecstatic. Fortunately, I got in to the seminary of my choice, unfortunately unforeseeable medical circumstances came up and there was no way I would be able to attend seminary as it would negatively affect my health. My friends thought how ironic it was that I finally got my wish, I was not going to sem, and I was actually disappointed.
In response to the OP – It’s true there are people who would be worse off attending sem, however as need seminary help said – people are really interested in where you spent your year and it means a lot in shidduchim. People seem to think that if a girl did not go to seminary she isn’t spiritual, she’s not grounded,(I’ve heard this too many times…) and there must be something wrong with her. At least that’s what I hear, so that’s what I think.
However, I must end saying: there are plenty of opportunities at home, and in a small way I am grateful for that year I was home. I started schooling, found a part time job, and was able to accomplish a lot more than if I had gone to seminary. I have more experience in the so called “real world” than most people my age, and I’m further ahead in my education. So while it may not be so accepted not to go, I really don’t see why?! Anyone?