I have a close family friend with diabetes. She has had it under control for years but the shadchanim said that because of it she would only be able to marry a guy who “also has a defect”. I thought that was absolutely horrible. She did end up marrying someone who has moderate social issues, but b”H they are happy together and he makes a good parnassah. (Actually, she’s the one who can’t find a job right now). The only difficulty she has had with the diabetes is that it means she can’t safely go on birth control, and her father-in-law was threatening to break up the shidduch because of it even though they got a heter to use condoms. B”H it worked out, but I remember when she was engaged and trying to reason with the guy’s father…it was so sad…
Menu