first of all you should all know, that i am speaking from a boy’s perspective.
when s/o in shidduchim hears about an issue, the first thing that comes to mind is- will this restrict or handicap the person in any way? so really, the first thing to do when you tell someone that you have D is to impress upon them that you are not in any way restricted, and you CAN do everything that anyone else can do.
secondly (i said this earlier), and this is how i felt, that because of the “issue,” it’s sort of a “test” for the right prince charming to accept. so in a way it was calming for me to know that the right one will accept me as i am.
and of course we want someone to accept us for who we really are.
Also, don’t ever get stuck in regreting something you said or did, after the date’s over, just know that Hashem was the One guiding the date, you didn’t mess up, whatever you said was good, it was meant to be!
reb- so hang in there and get good nights rest beforehand, and try to have fun. 🙂