@Jwashing: You are right about mixed messages. If you ever read magazines geared towards women (i.e., Good Housekeeping)there will be a whole article about dieting and on the next page a recipe for double, double chocholate chip cake.
This is what life is about. Mixed messages. It’s up to us to use the brain that HaShem gave us to make our own decisions.
In today’s world, where one child might live in Lakewood and one in Brooklyn, going away to a hotel for the Major Yom Tovim maybe the only times they can see each other.
Please remember that those individuals who go away contribute to the economy. There is the managagment, hotel staff, mashgiach, food vendors, maintenance, cleaning crew, food vendors, paper good vendors and every other vendor in between. And don’t forget the house detective who makes sure everyone is safe.