Jewish source- that’s just something everyone says to make people feel good. And it’s not true. People are put into situations they can’t handle. And not all of them do.
Rebdoniel- I don’t mean to minimize the pain you were caused by others, but what you don’t understand is the intense pain some people feel. Sometimes the hurt is just too bad. And it leads people to hate themselves and everything about the people who hurt them. So if those people are religious it causes then to resent religion. I was taught that there’s a Gemara that says someone who rules his home with an iron hand and the household lives in fear, the children will come to do the three cardinal sins.
Additionally, I think that sometimes if it is a choice between religion or emotional health than your health comes first. Someone who has never experienced this will never understand no matter what anyone says.