Marty g
It doesnt matter if you define yourself as a ben Torah or a working guy (not to say thatyou cant be both) or whatever if.something is assur its assur for everyone. Nobody gets a discount. Your cousin is.no different thana stranger in thisregard since you may marry her if she isnt married yet. If youmust talk to her keep it as brief aspossible and be mindful of yichud laws. If anything theres more danger in talkingto a cousin because you already feel close. Its.dangerous.